This is a question about friendships. Two friends got into a really bad fight this past weekend. They have each asked me to hang out this weekend. What do I do? I don’t want to have to choose sides. One is a friend I’ve known a little longer and has been a good friend and so she would feel betrayed and angry if she knew I were still friends with her now-enemy. The other I’ve known less longer, but we seem more compatible. Advice??

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Tell them to grow up and go see friend #3

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This is the best answer so far. Stay out of it as much as possible until things simmer down.

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The weekend is two whole days split them up

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Assuming it’s silly - then tell them that your friendship is more important. If it’s more serious, then make the person who’s fault it is go and just apologize (if clear)

You will have to try to mediate and see if they can get over it but do it separately

I can try, but I think the fight was so bad that there is no recovering from it. In fact, pretty sure of it.

Hang out with one on friday and one on saturday and don’t tell either of them about it. If they start talking crap about each other just validate their emotions but don’t disrespect the other person. Maybe even lie and say “I think X wants to make up” to get the ball rolling. Urge them to make up if you can so you don’t have to be in the middle.

So what? You’re gonna stop being friends with one of them because the other is controlling?

Friends wouldn’t require you to pick sides. Their business is their business. Just hang out with them separately.

Since this is the same event, I would tell them both "I know you're fighting with X, and we discussed this event a while ago. I'm going and X may be there. So if you're able to be there and be civil, I would love to see you there, and we can work through this issue later." Or something similar. I would also try to do this in a phone call/in person convo as I feel this may come across a little harsh via text

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