Coworker asked me to be a job reference, and I honestly can't recommend them. How do I decline without burning the bridge?

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I’m flattered and appreciate the request. I wish you the best in your future endeavors but unfortunately I do not feel qualified to speak on behalf of your abilities and skills. I think it’s best that _____ be asked instead since they have seen your work firsthand, and worked closely to monitor your results and successes.

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I like these, and would add that you don’t recall your interactions. Put it on your own memory; let them know it isn’t negative.

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Thanks for thinking of me. I don't think I'm qualified to speak on your qualifications. But good luck!

I appreciate the offer but I don't think I am the best person for this task….

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