Desi Moms, do you feel guilty going to India with your child but without your husband for a few extra weeks to spend time with your parents? When we travel together he tends to stay at his parents house. We’ve been together 11 years and I’ve only done this once but this time I feel so guilty knowing he will be by himself.

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SC1: dad here and I wish my wife will go someday with kids for a few weeks. I’d actually love it and thank my wife for doing so. :-)

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Nope not at all. Starting from first year or marriage i meticulously divide our days in India equally between his and my place. I even leave kids with him and his family for a few days and love to spend some free time by myself.

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Umm I don’t. Why should I? When you travel together he stays at his parents? I am really not following - doesn’t seem to be an equal arrangement here

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I don’t feel guilty for spending time with my parents. That is absurd. Is your husband sick or requires some kind of special care?

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If he stays at his parents and you stay elsewhere, you’re not together anyway. What do you feel guilty about?

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I would be happy to spend time by myself for few days. Dont get me wrong. I love my wife, and I love my son. Just I dont get opportunities to spend time with myself, doing my own things. I will miss my family for sure but as long as its short time, its a paradise

I was gonna say, same here as a male 🙂 go have fun

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He will be by himself and enjoying, so don’t feel guilty 😆

I will happily buy tickets if my wife decides to take kids on long trip and leave me alone. I can accomplish so many pending home improvements. LOL. Just my tools, gadgets and beer.

He may say otherwise but this is actually a gift to him 😄

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