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Wife is SM. I was about to promoted to SM. I was told to travel every week again with a 6month old so I quit and took internal consulting role with large insurance company
I really think it will be hard for you to both stay without a lot of family help or outsourcing tons of childcare
Be thinking of exit plans when things start to bend but haven’t broken yet. Things would have blown up if I stayed 1 more month
You could look for an internal role at the same company and move up that way. Either that or leave to a non traveling role. But staying and outsourcing your parenting isn’t a good move if you care enough
So I’m a Dir in consulting and my wife is a VP of marketing in industry. We share an office (some days). She is on a California schedule, but her dept/office is Baltimore. Our youngest toddler is in a nanny share in our hood. Our older two are in private school, but they bus to school. We’re both generally remote unless I have to shoot to a client site ad hoc; though, I usually get a days notice min.
Generally, we have a Google calendar to juggle family/life events. She and I comm every night on work calendars to figure who can do drops/pickups (in spite of blocking calendars). It’s a game of managing home life work streams. I keep physical whiteboard calendars for 3 months projections; all color coordinated. We keep our digital work. And a digital joint. Also, talk to your bosses and try to set limits.
Best thing I can say is: you’ve both got this. It’s just an adjustment. And one that millions of others in our professions have experienced, and often very empathetic to. Just lean on each other. When one can give 40%, the other needs to bring the 60%. Marriage (esp with kids) is work and unpredictable. Just keep the comm lines open.
Set boundaries with work and communication. I work with plenty of people that don’t take calls late afternoon and log back on later (myself included). My wife travelled as well, who over got the calendar invite first won. Then we talked about what the travel was for and readjusted.
Also, look to see if you can get a local project. Accenture has a policy to allow you to have a local project for a period of time after your leave, I don’t remember the specifics
Just posted on another thread on this earlier today
https://joinfishbowl.com/comment_57oui24by9
I exited six months after my son was born too to an industry job
Dual travel is really challenging to sustain. Hours etc and lifestyle boundaries can be worked through if both your a strong performer and prioritize it but unless you can align well with a very local practice area it’s probably really hard to both stay in consulting.
If you can make the travel work you will need to spend significant $$ on Nannie’s but if you like the job and take the longer term career view that $$ on Nannie’s is probably cheaper than most alternates that change your trajectory.