After I joined the force I noticed some people I considered friends have slowly distanced themselves from me. Anyone else go through something similar?

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Sort of. I just figured they must not have been my real friends to begin with in that case

Not really any friends. But my family has definitely made some comments, especially at the holidays when we are all together! I've learned how to redirect those conversations pretty well though

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