For those with SMALLER wedding parties, how did you choose who would be in it?

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Who did you immediately call or message that you were engaged. Those are the most important people. Those are the ones who are not just casual, or in your circle, or martied to your brother, or soroiety sisters, or people who you were in their wedding 5 years ago when you were close. Who would drive you to the ER at 4 am if you needed to go ( if they were in town) . That is who you texted. Other people found out later.

I had 4. Didn't think of it as small, but many people consider that small.

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We definitely struggled with our invite list. Initially, we started looking at inviting everyone. It would have easily been 200 people after adding all the cousins, their spouses, and kids... and that just wasn't feasible for us. We kind of just decided we'd rather do something small with our nearest and dearest family members and closest friends. So immediate family rather than a wider group that we rarely talk to. We don't have that many friends within the country so we had coworkers lumped in with friends. A total of 75 invited.

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I had way too many potential people, so my husband and I just had our siblings and MOH and best man. Everyone else was a “VIP.” We had special seating for them and a corsage/boutonniere. We asked they wear navy and then we got quick pictures with them after the wedding. They didn’t walk down the aisle or have an entrance in the reception. The women had the option of getting hair and makeup done at their own cost if they wanted to. Some did and some didn’t. I also didn’t have a bachelorette party.
We got great feedback from our friends on this. They appreciated not having the pressure of being in the wedding party.

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I think when you have 2 to 4, no one really gets offended. When you start having 6 to 8, people may wonder why they didn't make the cut ( even if they are secretly glad)

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Did you mean wedding guests or the bridemaids and groomsmen. May have answered the wrong question.lol

Bridesmaids and grooms

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Well, it was that hard for me. I choose my two best and longest friends, my sister in law (she had me in her wedding) and the grooms sister. He had two of his brothers, my brother and his best friend. It was pretty easy because I did not have a large amount of people I was close enough with that I would want in my wedding party.

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