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Got a random email from a supposed Amazon recruiter for a SDE position (which is not at all a fit). The email is amazon.com domain and there are no red flags in the body but it doesn't feel like an Amazon recruiter due to the tacky signature, etc. Has anyone seen this kind of cold-calling from FAANG recruiter?
Layoffs at Walmart corporate 😬😬
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I am glad you qualified by framing it as a "genuine" question
Otherwise i might have misinterpreted
Marrying my wife is and will always be the single best decision I’ve ever made.
@MD1 - feel the same way. Marriage is really about playing life in co-op mode. Everything else is sugar on top. The sugar can be amazing and great too, but definitely one of the most important things for me was finding a good life partner
Not for women
Senior Manage1 - wrong on if you simply live with someone. If you cohabit and is in domestic partnership you get the same benefits of being married even when you have to hit court when it goes sour.
Yes if there are stable and growing free cash flow, a fragmented market (ripe for roll-up deals), defensible market position, great product pipeline, and a strong management team. Probably flip to a UMM shop for at least 3X MOIC.
This is hilarious 😆
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If you're asking 'is it worth it' then no, it's not.
I've been married for 25 years. Three kids, two houses, a couple of cats. We're thinking of retiring early once the kids are all in college. We couldn't have done it without each other. I never looked at it like a transaction.
Prenup prenup prenup - I was shy to bring it up and I never did. Be very upfront. If the girl or guy don’t want the prenup then you know why they want to get married. Otherwise marriage is all about having family, kids, love, fight, make up, affection, care, ups and downs etc
director 3 - what kind of logic is "If you can’t earn it back if it doesn’t work out; you probably didn’t earn it in the first place." !! if someone is married for 30 years and into their 50s and gets divorced you expect they should be able to go back and earn what they lost (in the past 30 years) in the next 10 years or so before they hit retirement or even before that laid off and cant find a job because of ageism. Its protecting ones wealth in case of a marriage that goes sour. Unless the other partner was busy raising kids its better to have a prenup or have someone who would also contribute to the kitty (that will eventually get halved in divorce). thats the reality in these times.
As opposed to what? Being in a long term relationship without the legal protections, or just avoiding the long- term relationship thing all together?
If you're in a committed long- term relationship, especially with kids, shared property, a desire to act on each other's behalf to make medical decisions, want to ensure you are each other's beneficiaries in the event that you die, etc, then yes - it is worth it.
If the question is more of a philosophical "Do I want to be in a committed relationship", no one can answer that but you
Who you marry is arguably the most impactful financial decision of your life. I’d say it’s worth it if you plan on buying real estate together or having kids.
Worth it how?
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If that's not an open ended question, I dunno what is...
Worth it how? Financially? From a transactional perspective? For tying yourself to your life partner? For raising a family? For religious reasons? Something else?
If you plan to have kids, yes most likely
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I love my wife. A piece of paper makes it legal and helps us save some money and gets us some other benefits . It doesn’t impact our relationship. But I don’t it is more complicated than that for me
For same sex couples and other such groups, it may have a much larger meaning
Could you please elaborate on the saving money aspect?
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Oh man I go to an event and see all the kids running around playing the dating game and I am so relieved I don’t have to deal with that
The question is problematic. Is it worth it, strongly implies you are focused on what you can get out of it. This is selfishness and you should take it as confirmation you are not right for marriage. Marriage requires two people giving all they can to build, nuture, and preserve the relationship. To succeed, you have to give up a lot. There are times when you have to choose between being right and happy. When done right, marriage is absolutely worth it.
I have been married 29 years. The first 13 were terrible because we were focused on ourselves. Many people said they wouldn't stay in a marriage like it. The last 16 have been wonderful because we finally BOTH started putting the needs of the other first. People call us a model for rescuing a bad marriage.
If you’re talking from a cash perspective, yes. There’s usually a disparity in tax brackets and you can save thousands a year that way.
From a legal perspective gives you a lot of additional advantages you wouldn’t have otherwise.
But also no one gets married for tax or legal reasons.
I’m aware — I’m sponsoring my husband for one.
You don’t get married for that benefit though usually unless it’s just transactional.
It’s hard work. I would encourage you to think about all the scenarios and go into it with eyes open. Never assume you won’t end in a separation.
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If you are emotional immature, then no
Good legal and social structure if you plan to have kids. Otherwise, no point.
Only if she’s out of my league…
If you truly love your spouse then yes. If you’re marrying for other reasons then no. Being in a loveless marriage is killer.