Have you ever had a (male) colleague who completely ignores you? It’s weird - if we are on calls together, he will chit chat with everyone but me. If I make a point in the meeting, he will ignore it - unless someone else makes the same point, and then he will respond. If I invite him to a meeting (with other people, not a 1-on-1), he won’t RSVP. We don’t have a lot of interaction, so it doesn’t affect my job, but I’m trying to figure out why any professional would act this way.

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Wouldn’t waste brain space on this guy. Move out of his orbit.

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That is pretty odd, especially in today's world. The most benign explanation would be that he's just shy or awkward dealing with women. That can be the case. Or, it's possible he just really resents women in the workplace, that's also a possibility. I like to think the best of people, and I'd probably attribute it to extreme awkwardness. But there is a chance it's more malign.

I worked with someone like this years ago. A few months after I started working at the company, I made a small comment about him talking over me. Apparently that was all it took for his fragile ego to get BIG MAD and ignore me for the next 2 years. He started as my manager, but I was eventually promoted over him and became his manager. That was a great day.

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Hi there!!

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I just want to say that I'm queer and married, in a Cis-hetero passing relationship 🤭

Do we have to talk about dating like all the time?

Can't we talk about other stuff? Like promoting THE AGENDA (jk)

No, but FR let's talk about being open and accepted in the workplace? How did you do that? How (un) friendly is the work environment?

Thankyaaaaaaaalll 😘😘😘

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