How can I politley tell my coworkers it's not my problem they had children? Someone I work with wants me to change my holiday plans (that I've had for months) to cover them because their child minder dropped out last minute. I feel honestly insulted that they even asked, and while I feel for them I don't understand how it's my problem...at all. AITA?

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Just apologize and mention the vacation isn’t changeable

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What is there to feel insulted about? Lol did your coworker literally say, “you don’t have kids so you need to move your whole trip.” Most people don’t say things like that lol. It’s very normal for coworkers to ask each other, “are you able to switch shifts with me or switch your PTO days.” There is absolutely nothing wrong with just asking. At the end of the day, you can just politely say, “ no, I’m sorry my plans are to these dates.” There is no expectation to do thing you can’t do or don’t want to do. Especially since you had the days off first lol.

Also, what the hell is a child minder??? Lmao.

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I also think it's wild that they asked, if you were free that's one thing but asking you to cancel your vacation is crazy.

Our King/Queen we await your direction on this.

Like things won't be awkward after you say no.

When I didn't have children I was asked, or even required by management to change my plans for this very issue. And I did not like it.

Fast forward, I now have children so I do know why this would be an issue.

However if plans are made then they should be respected. Just say no the plans are made, money was spent. Maybe next time you can help.

They chose to have children. Do not change your plans. They are your coworker, not your friend.

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