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I never stopped worrying until we were in the delivery suite. I never unpacked the stroller (left the receipt taped to the box), never cut tags off the clothes, never got ready more than the bare minimum- I was always on edge and expecting a loss.
Funnily enough (or not) she was most in danger once we were In that suite (long story, happy ending).
When I thought about a second kid I found I couldn’t manage that stress again and opted to stop at 1.
So, I feel you and leave you with my mother’s words of comfort (she had many, many miscarriages and a still birth): "It’s nature’s way of telling you this child wasn’t healthy enough to live a good life, and making room for the ones that are.”
I just had my second a month ago after having 2 losses in the process of trying for a second kid. I will agree that the fear never really goes away. For me it was there until I heard those cries after she was delivered, and even then it took a couple weeks for it all to feel real. I agree with those commenting above about taking it one day at a time and meditation/breathing exercises/therapy.
Sending you hugs and positive vibes for a healthy pregnancy and baby.
I am you a few months ago. The trauma of my previous miscarriage carried with me every second of every day and it was hard to function. I started seeing a therapist (telemedicine) and she was invaluable. Sometimes there’s no way to make that fear disappear but you can find ways to manage.
You could be me too. Highly recommend finding a therapist (especially one specializing in prenatal). She has helped me address the fear and anxiety, and then be able to let it go rather than let it overtake me. It’s also honestly just nice to have someone to talk to about those fears who isn’t my husband, which was particularly the case early in the first trimester when I wasn’t talking to anyone else about it.
I’m sorry sis but it doesn’t go away. I’ve had 1 loss and 2 live births and my anxiety is still super high but in different ways. I took up meditation. There are a few videos on YT dedicated to pregnancy for free and then apps like Calm. Lots of breaths, staying away from google, talking to my therapist and counting the little milestones as blessings. I still think of the baby I lost. Not as much as when it first happened but that baby still remains part of you. It gets easier. Best of luck to you mama!
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I’m so sorry. It’s so so hard.
I agree with ACD1. There was no way to make that fear go away for me, but what helped me manage it was reminding myself (constantly) that:
1. I’m doing everything I can.
2. Sitting in the fear won’t change any outcomes. Dwelling in the fear wouldn’t better protect the baby - it just paralyzed me. I tried my best to stay busy and hope for the best.
Lots of hugs and wishing you well!
I feel you. I miscarried in March and am now 14 weeks pregnant. I had a Dr appointment today and was so convinced something would be wrong that I couldn't sleep last night and was a nervous wreck. Thankfully, we got only good news today. I just want to say that you're not alone. Talk to your support system and take it a day at a time. My doctor (and my mom too) both stressed that being a parent means giving up control. I hope you have a very healthy pregnancy and baby!