How do people who are depressed manage to keep going with work? I was scared about losing work for a bit, but regular times I feel so unmotivated to push on. I just don’t care. Life sucks, most people are cruel, and there’s no light at the end of this for low value people who no one ever cared about it. It just feels like a long series of going through the motions till you die. Try to fill time with hobbies and going new places, in the end it seems like hollow distractions.

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My opinion as someone who’s been there. Focus on your heath first. Always. No exceptions.

I was clinically depressed at work and took a 3 month FMLA. Luckily my company paid 100% while out (I still would have done it without the pay). It took a lot of personal work to figure out what I needed (in life, more than work). And I was very fortunate that my boss was receptive and supportive. As was my spouse.

Good luck. Here to listen and offer any help I can.

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Hang in there

Are you going to therapy? Have you tried medicine? I was in your position a couple of years ago and I suffered from severe burnout as well. Therapy and medication helped also finding people at work that I connected with to help make being there less stressful and miserable. You are not low value. I guarantee someone cares about you and appreciates your work. You are talking to the wrong people. Good luck!

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I do go to therapy, no meds, but struggle to open out of fear of being locked up. Even half truths are enough to freak out my therapist more than I wish and I don’t believe mental health services in America are meant to help people, but I might be paranoid.
I came to the realization not long ago my parents were very abusive to me as a kid. I downplayed since they never hit me, but realize a lot of issues stemmed from them genuinely not liking me but keeping me around out of religious obligation and image.
Just don’t know what to think or feel. What I wanted out of life was to be normal and able to connect with other people like everyone else does, but I feel even that is too difficult to achieve my age now with zero progress.
Thanks for the reply. I know I mostly nonsensically ramble here. I’m trying to make sense of it all, just feel confused what to even focus on most the time since my life goals seem utterly absurd for someone my age and point of my career.

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