I am 47, with an adult son who already left home. My challenge is finding a genuine Christian guy that also has a high income, but can be flexible if they are in full time ministry. My son thinks that this is unreasonable, since the pool of genuine Christians guys is small... Am I unreasonable? Standards to high?

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I think the only unreasonable thing is income. I try to think about nonnegotiables. I would gladly take a guy that may not make as much money, but is an all around great person and shares the same passion as me. That’s just for me, but if income and living a certain lifestyle is important, then you may not find someone as devout in their faith.

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As good as honey as white as snow. Wonderful reasoning

Definitely I would say your local church would be the best place, but also (most importantly) bring it to God, genuinely pray about it and let Him lead and guide you. Also, pray about the income aspect, don't let that be a deal breaker if a real man of God comes along. What's most important is that the man you're looking for is first, and foremost, a man of God.

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Can’t even tell any more if this is sarcasm.

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Girl…

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Lol

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Best place to meet them would be church. If you are not finding anyone in your home church it might be worth visiting other local churches.

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you do not look younger for your age.

There seems to be a lot of unintentional virtue-signaling here, OP, and that may be off-putting to some, and dissonant with your preference for an affluent man. May I ask whether your experience is that you did date folks who meet most of your criteria, however the relationship didn’t pan out; or are you just not finding folks who meet the criteria at all?

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I think that will be very tough. Things are so rough out there I’ll settle for employed.

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Why settle when God is able

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It's not unreasonable to want that but from the post and your replies it seems you are just looking for the comforts of having a rich guy. More than half the country is Christian so claiming the pool is small means what you are really after is the money. If thats what you want just say that and dont use "genuine christian guy" as a shield.

And to answer before you say it again, no, being Christian doesn't mean you have to be poor. However, the bible never promises riches so it doesn't mean you will be rich either. In fact, Jesus wasn't rich, nor were any of his disciples. They all had very modest lives.

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OP if what you really want is to avoid a situation simliar to what happened with your ex, your income criteria is not necessarily going to work but better communication and boundaries in future relationships might.

No but you can possibly persuade a made to become Christian

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Jesus is single.

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I don't know about "unreasonable." You've left yourself with no choice, however, but to be ok with the fact that you've left yourself with a pretty limited dating pool.

You may have to compromise on the income part.

Better marry whom you love whether poor or rich. That's my simple advice. Iam rich in proteins that might benefit you meanwhile as you get richer with money . Contact me for incase .

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