35M. Friend zoned after one date. What am I doing wrong? I met her at a baby shower. We talked/text regular for about a month or so because I was traveling for work. Finally went on a date about two weeks ago, a week after I told her I like her and said she never thought about us being romantic. Today I got the official friend zoned text.

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Nothing wrong with you but just not the right match.
If there would be something wrong with you they would have ghosted you.
They must have thought you were nice but no chemistry.
It’s a numbers game in the beginning.

@fm - seriously, must you project your ‘women are the worst because they’re picky or they’re flaky or they’re racist’ views and make this about you in every single bowl?

I’ve seen that ‘I don’t know my type’ screenshot like 3x now

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American women get turned off quicker than electricity in a hurricane. Don’t even know how to flirt.

My man, get yourself a Latina. She’ll value way more how you are.

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First are you M or F? Second, give us the details of what happened leading to the date, as well as the date itself.

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Hmm so she had already seen you. Ok. Then how was the date? What type of date was it?

Thanks

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You're not doing anything "wrong" per se. There's a billion people on this planet and you're not always gonna have chemistry and be physically attracted to them. She didn't find you physically attractive so that's why she's passing on you, plain and simple.

I think telling someone you like them -- before going on a few dates -- seems a bit desperate.

This is the type of woman that then complains that their SO never does anything romantic for them.


Gee I wonder why.

I think telling the other person that you like him/her after a few dates is much better than dragging it out for months. Make it clear form the get-go. You can save your time and effort.

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