I am a leader in several bar associations, both diverse and not diverse. And I know it may be unpopular to say this, but I am exhausted. I am exhausted by the people, the work, society in general, the responsibilities that people place on persons of color to educate while still trying to heal from everyday trauma. I also feel like the pandemic has exacerbated people's entitlement to express themselves without repercussion and thought as to how their communication is being received. (Cont'd)

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Decorum has gone out the window. Professionalism has gone out the window. Not all the time, I admit, but enough to make it noticeable. Sometimes, it is so incredibly frustrating that it almost drives me to the point of not wanting to volunteer my time to any bar association. And the ego! The inflated sense of self and entitlement at the higher levels of bar association work is astounding.

As you can tell, this is a rant because I needed an exhaust. But sometimes, it's healthy to shed light on the less glamorous aspects of leading organizations.

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You don't owe anyone anything. If you're burnt out, you need to re-evaluate your responsibilities and step away from what is no longer serving you. Can't pour from an empty cup.

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💯. After this administrationis over, I am 100% going to focus on myself and my career.

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Just quit. It’s your life, own your free time and if this doesn’t serve you anymore, don’t do it.

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I wish I could. It's a very visible position so I can't. But I will definitely not be doing anything further after this.

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Someone just vented that they don't get recognized for the work they do. I sympathize but frankly, that's the same for so many unsung contributors in an organization. Organizations try but they're not going to get it perfectly down. I mean we really do try. Also, it's not what you say it's how you say it. Ugh.

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You may want to consider scaling back your involvement or taking a break altogether if it's becoming too much for you to handle. It's okay to prioritize your own mental and emotional health, and it's important to find a balance that works for you.

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I feel you. I was thrust into leadership in my Inn of Court. Previous leaders have families, so their early exits were seen as OK. When I refused to step up (because there was no one to replace me in my current role, and I’d effectively be doing the two most labor intense leadership roles) people talked behind my back about what else I was doing with my time (I’m childless).

So cringe.

That's the worst. I'm child-free as well and it's as though my time is less valuable as a result.

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