Have you ever been told off by an older attorney of color? We have one Black partner at our firm and in conversation with him this morning he told me I should work on sounding and looking "more professional" and not let my "tone" or "bad attitude" get in the way. I don't think I've ever had a bad attitude at work, and whatever "tone" I'm speaking in it's my normal one. As a Black woman I just feel super weird about it and kind of sad.

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Yes. I try to remember that they must have faced just as much bullsh*t as I have and probably even worse, so they're trying to help how they know how. It's frustrating though because ideally those would be the people who want to see you succeed even more.

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Definitely a lot worse.

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Sorry you experienced this. Reminds me of the movie The Butler in the sense that black ppl, historically speaking, had to face adversity by becoming non-threatening to the white folks. It’s one thing if your personality is playful/aggressive and wholly differ if you’re violent. I’d ignore that partner. Ensure you’re work quality is great, which I’m sure it is, and let that speak volumes for you all while still being you 😊

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Yes. I’ll never forget it. I asked why she felt she needed to put me and another black associate through what she went through. She said she “paid the iron price, so we have to, too.”

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LC2 nah, DC

Just because they’re Black, doesn’t mean they’ll have your back.

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Very true. I am so sorry to hear you were spoken to this way. Does he do this to everyone or were you kind of singled out?

Sorry but fuck him unless you really are unprofessional with a bad “tone”. However, if you act appropriately he is probably feeding into respectability politics and except you to have a more acceptable “white tone”. These type of black people are worst than racist white ones in my opinion.

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