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If you don’t have a need for the extra 50K right now, I’d stay WFH. Is your child in daycare or will you going in office require daycare? Account for tuition and drop offs and pick ups.
It’s definitely beneficial to be home with your young child AND the $$$ and firms will be there when you’re ready.
it depends on what you want though.
For me, I have 4. Two of which are 2 under 2. I had a 100% WFH job and it was great but I don’t like working from home 100%. It wasn’t good for me. So I now go in office 2-3 days a week at a new firm. it’s a challenge but it is good for my mental health.
So ask yourself what’s most important for you in this season. Do you NEED the increase in this moment? Can you hold out until little baby is a bit older? Also consider that you’ll never get these moments back.
Thank you so much for these thoughts! Super helpful. You’re quite right that money will always be there so I’m trying not to let that blind me.
My baby will be going into daycare either way, so cost of that along with logistics of pick ups and drop offs are definitely on my mind. I’ve asked several times during the interview about flexibility for pickups and leaving mid-day for emergencies etc. I’m already sad thinking about leaving him all day but I think it’ll be good for him. I’m trying to be as present as I can and that’s my priority for when I’m back at work too.
Wow, 4 kids! Sounds like you are doing amazing with them and found a good way to work that keeps your mental health well. Thanks for sharing your experience and giving me things to think about!
Even if the baby is in full time care, not having to commute saves so much time. If the kiddo is sick, or daycare is closed you don’t have to take time off. Even the ability to do loads of laundry, food prep a little, are huge when you’re working from home physically. I think it depends on how flexible your spouse’s job is to know how much the benefits of WAH help you specifically. But keep in mind that after taxes, when you factor in additional spend on gas, clothes etc you’re making less than an extra $50k with the new job.
I sooo appreciate being able to do those house chores in between calls and work etc. You’re quite right about a chunk going to taxes for sure. Thanks so much for the helpful thoughts.
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It’s crazy.
I feel like the time to spice things up professionally is ideally when all of your children are like 5.
When they’re little, take the flexibility and ease at work as the blessings that they are, and let parenting be your focus.
If you can keep them out of daycare, even better!
Unfortunately can’t keep them out of daycare, but fully appreciate (and agree with, hence the inner turmoil haha) your point about the flexibility and ease of work being a real blessing. Thanks so much!
if it were $100k i’d say take it. I don’t think $50k is worth the hassle. For reference I went from full remote biglaw to 3 days a week in-house and it’s totally doable (my son is 1.5) but if i could’ve kept my flexibility of wfh without the inflexibility of biglaw it would’ve been the sweet spot.
I don’t think $100K is in the company’s budget / reasonable for my role yet, sadly (as much as I agree that would be amazing)! Thanks for sharing your experience. I left biglaw with the goal of starting a family, and I’m so glad I did that. As you said, it’s way too inflexible!
I really enjoyed going back to work after maternity leave. I missed feeling productive and talking to adults. I WFH and watched my baby a day and a half a week and struggled to get work done, but enjoyed the time with my baby. I don’t think 3 days a week is too bad and 25 minutes isn’t either. I had PPD so I had to do what was best for my mental health because a happy mom is better.
Thank you for sharing! I am likewise looking forward to being a bit more productive again. Are you still WFH? My baby will be in daycare regardless of the job I take. I’d love to have him home for a day but also don’t think I’d get much done. Thanks for the thoughts and I am glad you found ways to be a happy mom. 100% agree a happy mom is a better mom!
I have 2 kids (4 and 7). I worked full time in office when my first was born and was then fully remote during covid (with full time child care), and then moved to 2 days in office and then 3 for the past year or so. I actually prefer 3 days in office. It’s enough time for me to do laundry/dishes on wfh days but I also like being at the office. That being said, life has been so much easier since my youngest hit 3/4. So much less sickness and stuff. If I had a new baby I would probably be home more, but I also had PPD and needed to get away from my kids, lol.
Also, for what it’s worth, I think daycare is great and better than being stuck with me all day! My kids are extremely social and flexible, which I think was partially due to daycare from a pretty early age.
Thanks for sharing your experience. It’s nice to hear a positive story & how you are able to balance motherhood, career and general life tasks with your hybrid setup. I’m wondering if 2 days at home is flexible enough for me to do those chore / life things too, especially because my husband is also partly remote and can also do some. But as you said, I fully expect some (a lot??) sickness so I am trying to figure out how flexible the company would be on that end if I need to be home more often than not at first.
I fully agree that daycare is great for kids! I am going to be so sad dropping him off, but I think it’ll be great for him and he’ll learn so much more than he could with me. So glad you and your kids had a positive experience too and it helped your PPD.
Thanks all for your helpful and engaging responses! This is such a great and supportive space. I may not even get the offer (that would make my decision easier!!) but you’ve given me a lot to think about if I do.