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Why would you ask?! 🤦♀️
I hinted on asking once, and Bf told me don’t ask questions you don’t want answers to ... so I didn’t ask cause I totally would have felt the same if he gave me a high number (which I expect ...)
One other comment / piece of advice from a former slut - obviously based on my husband and my numbers (^ 50/100) we’re both very sexual people, which is one important factor to long-term compatibility. While I definitely don’t think numbers matter, at all, sexual compatibility does matter. If you like sex or experimentation less than your partner or vice versa, I could see that being a long-term problem. High numbers don’t necessarily equal highly sexual people, but they can be correlated. I’d focus on assessing your sexual compatibility, not your number discrepancies
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Don’t ask questions you don’t want answers to
Here's lying. I did social network analysis on a similar topic and I can assure you that number is highly unlikely.
Who cares? If you are safe it doesn't matter.
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Are you guys exclusive? Whens the last time he was in an exclusive relationship? If he has been in longer term relationships then I would be skeptical or surprised by that number as well. If he hasn't been in longer term relationships to this point and that's something you're looking for it might raise a yellow flag if being in a relationship is something he's really looking for.
Men are also known to inflate their body count, whereas women tend to understate theirs. True story.
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Personally I think it's a bit immature for this to affect you at all. I'm surprised people even ask this. I have no idea what my partners count is. That being said if it's like 500 or something totally out there just make sure he's not a sex addict first lol
The count isn’t what actually matters.
What matters is that all of them were consensual and non-coerced. That’s what’s most important.
I’d happily date someone with over 200 if they were all consensual, over someone with 5 and one wasn’t.
(Former sexual assault victim advocate here)
As long as he’s clean and that number doesn’t magically increase while you’re with him, it shouldn’t matter.
wow...I mean, obviously it's his freedom and nothing wrong with it, just I'm very.. impressed by this 😳
Curious - what is the average body count according to y’all? What is your body count?
Im 29 and mines 36, which is quite average amongst people I know. I think it’s entirely subjective.
Don’t all unless you can handle the answer
Only ask questions you want answers to. How does this number affect you? It’s 2020 and unless you are not monotonous it shouldn’t.
Does body count mean the number of people with whom he's had penetrative sex? If he is clean, I don't see why that should matter.
It’s fine...just make sure he never goes in bareback. Wrap that s**t up!
Or just make sure he’s tested before beginning a sexual relationship with him
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What do you get from knowing? And how would you like it if he’d asked you?
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The more partners, the higher the risk for STDs, however, I’d be more focused on how many times year he gets tested and whether he practices safe sex. I always tell friends not to have unprotected sex unless it’s your long term partner and you saw their results. STDs for women have a greater impact, infertility, cancer etc.
80%. Its common, but still can a big deal - particularly for women. I’ve had HPV for 6-7 years and I have to have surgery now.
HPV concerns: is this the same virus that the Gardacil shot protects women from? Or is this the herpes/cold sore concern?
There are like 80 strains of HPV, though not all are STDs. When I got the Guardasil shot it only protected against 2 of the most common high risk strains (the ones that cause cervical and other cancers) and 2 of the most common low risk strains (the ones that cause genital warts).
I think they’ve expanded the number of strains covered by the shot, but it still doesn’t cover every strain and vaccines are not 100% effective. Guardasil used to only be administered to those 23 and under since, for various reasons, it loses efficacy with older age cohorts.
It’s never a good idea to ask
Okay, I've never heard the term "body count" used outside murder shows...
Right?? Hasn’t anyone seen that Anna Faris movie “What’s your Number?”
27y/o here! Mine is definitely in the higher bracket of what has been mentioned here. It’s definitely less than 100 though😂😂
My boyfriend on the other hand has had 3 partners, myself included! He wanted to know so I wrote down a list of all the guys I’ve been with and surprisingly, he adores me for my honesty. If your boyfriend loves you, do the requisite tests and live happily! Those years of experience may have made him one hell of a sexual partner and now you get to reap the rewards!👄
Don’t ask questions you don’t want the answer to lol