My current life situation has really brought my self esteem down and this quarantine makes it even worse. How do you lift yourself up when you feel low? I feel like I really want some validation that I’m attractive from someone but have never ever felt the need for it my whole life

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Working on my self esteem is a life long process for me. I think having some sort of routine and building atomic habits has helped me tremendously. In the morning, I still pretend that I am going to the office and continue doing my usual skincare and makeup routine. Maybe it’s the placebo effect but it instantly lifts me up. Find activities that you love and commit doing it at least 2-3 days a week. When I am feeling low, I force myself to go out for a walk, run or hike and it instantly lifts me up.
I love being noticed and having attention but I have let go of seeking validation from others. There is nothing wrong with seeking validation occasionally- I have learned that the key is moderation.

Great going! It’s not easy to get away from seeking validation. Great to see you’re doing well

Both of you HMU

Why has the current situation affected your self esteem? You seem to be usually the kind who does not care for validation

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