I listened to this podcast from the NYT Modern Love column about how to sustain a long marriage. The guy's wife threw him out of the house and took him back *6 times*. He that in the end he loves her because he can't help himself, that something about her that makes him weak, something vulnerable & unconquerable.

Thing is how do you get there from one of many mundane dates? Do you know from the beginning or does it develop over time and closeness?

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https://www.nytimes.com/2024/05/22/podcasts/

Anyone want to go on a date today? 🤷🏻‍♀️

My family/friends ask me for store discounts all the time. It's really uncomfortable to say no, but I have to. Any tips on how to handle these conversations?

29 M - Any one in Montreal for a relationship?

Looking for a good daycare or nanny in Cambridge. About a year out but everywhere seems to have waitlists. Any guidance here?

I ended my relationship of 6 years about 3 months ago bc he said he might regret not having kids later down the line. we were always on the fence but I’m leaning towards no. It hurts so much having to walk away from an otherwise perfect relationship. Wish this was easier…

Recommendations for a chill bar around downtown with pool tables? Looking for a nice ambience for a date. Thank you

Best Christmas things to do with a two-year-old?

I think it’s over with my SO of 3 years. He tells me he loves me and wants to work things through but has lied to me several times in the past - some which were the same mistake three times. He knows he needs professional help (he’s also on antidepressants and has PTSD) but I don’t know how I can trust him again. Feeling completely broken - cannot believe the situation we’re in. I’m so sad my heart is breaking and I don’t know what to do

Best divorce lawyer in NYC?

How many of you feel it’s important to marry a Brahmin?

This bowl has been quiet and I see partners commenting on odd posts around fishbowl so I figure you need more fodder: partners, did any of you have parents that travelled as much as you do?

These dating apps. ARGH! Someone “likes” you (takes the time to do that) then never messages you back. I don’t understand.

My wife and I just had our second child, and we have also been dealing with her cervical cancer diagnosis. It has been a stressful year, to say the least. I want to do something nice for her, but money is tight right now because of the cancer treatment costs, and her being on unpaid leave because of the cancer treatments. What is something low cost I can do that will be a nice “couples thing” so we can de-stress, but also make her feel special?

So, how does a first timer go about getting involved in dating apps? How do I start and what’s a good one to use? Last time I dated, only Match existed!! 🙄 (long story, I’m not that old)

I’ve had to step away from social media for my own mental sanity as I have a major issue with comparing myself to peers when it comes to life stages. (Single female, 34, never married, no male prospects, dog mom.) As a result, I feel like I’m doing a disservice to myself professionally as social media is a HUGE communication channel. Any advice on staying away or including it in my life in healthy ways?

Why do we always tell people “Be the best version of yourself before starting a relationship?”
I feel this is wrong…first, if you’re someone who constantly wants to be better, this doesn’t work. Also, what happens when you’re going through things and you’re not the best version? What happens is…the going gets tough and then one person leaves the other.

Has anyone else talked to a doctor about stress while trying to conceive? I’ve been having a really hard time wanting a baby for the way my husband and I have been arguing or talking to each other. I think we should go to counseling. I know I love him and I know he loves me- there’s just so much animosity so much anxiety around discussions. Do you think our anxiety or tension is because we have not been able to conceive?

Anyone in the suburbs find it harder to make friends compared to the city? I don’t want to move back but I don’t know what else to do..

I’m hoping to steer clear of any scams by posting & I know it’s been posted before but, again, scams. Anyway, I am looking for something that can be done remotely on nights and weekends after I get home from my daily in-office job. My sister passed away & I’m now helping raise her kids. With Christmas coming, I’m nervous and dreading the season not only to not have her but will I make it a happy one for the kids. I need extra income but need to be home with them in the evenings.

What types of questions do you like to ask candidates during your first initial conversation with them?

Interviewing for senior audit role at a small tech company, interviewed with 7 people so far. Recruiter ghosts me for 1 month and now she wants me to do more interviews. During the 1 month of ghosting I applied for an internal transfer at EY and have interview next week. If I get the transfer, I’d rather stay at EY - should I decline or accept the tech company’s 8th interview?

Hello! Looking at an opportunity with established startup in UK that's just been acquired by a large co. I'm US based and my salary is around $250k (NYC) -I've been asked my expectation without the startup giving me a range to work from (though I've asked). I'm not sure how to reply to them because I have a feeling that my requirement may be out of their range and while I don't want to undercut my value, I also don't want to be cut out of the process because it's an interesting co. Any advice?

Ladies who love food: let’s try out different cool restaurants together!

Hello everyone. My joining date is 20/10/22 in natwest.But still i did’nt get any mail regarding my joining formalities.can anyone explain me that how many days it will take to complete my pes verification.

Hey guys,

Anybody willing to refer me for LEK?

Last year, I had passed the CV screening and got the invitation to take the test. However, I did not get the invitation for the interview.

Would like to apply again this time with a referral.

(1) Is bankruptcy an active/growing practice area during recessions?
(2) If I clerk in a bankruptcy court as a 5th year general commercial litigator, would I be a competitive candidate for a bankruptcy position in an AmLaw 100 firm following the clerkship? (assume for sake of question that credentials are not an issue)

Boomer. I am in between jobs. Laid off in 10/21 after 16+ yrs, with an ABA firm. RIF. Still on excellent terms. Took my time living off generous package and didn’t seriously start applying until 01/22. Made a rookie mistake and accepted first offer.
Turns out job wasn’t as advertised. Mutual parting of ways 3/22. Due diligence is critical.
Now interviewing a LOT. Some temp work, I still have “it”. I relate to all gens. Willing to mentor AND learn from all. Tech savvy, CTE from day one. Leads?

Associate at an AmLaw 100 firm doing patent work. I applied to a part time masters program to try to pivot to a different technical field (still doing patent work, but in something that interests me more than what I’m doing now). Do I try to stick it out at the firm while getting the masters, ask for a reduced hours schedule, or get a part time, non-legal job so I can focus more on the program (one year).

Anyone else calling a Tether collapse?

Are you going to invest in Navi's Index fund ?

How important is seniors/managers setting an example? It seems these people believe they are entitled or privileged at Barclays and morale is suffering as a result.

Anyone planning to read something this long weekend ?

Guys for sap basis with2 yoe is there no openings

Need referrel pls help

I heard you need to show a net worth of 100% of the loan amount. Have you heard about this?

Taking a gamble here. 25 OXY $16Cs for 4/9 and 25 OXY $17Cs for 4/9. $0.20 and $0.08 respectively. Very high risk but have gains on other OXY trade that I don’t mind risking on this.

If job posting pay was $36.66 hourly (no range) what would be an acceptable offer and counter offer?