I think it’s over with my SO of 3 years. He tells me he loves me and wants to work things through but has lied to me several times in the past - some which were the same mistake three times. He knows he needs professional help (he’s also on antidepressants and has PTSD) but I don’t know how I can trust him again. Feeling completely broken - cannot believe the situation we’re in. I’m so sad my heart is breaking and I don’t know what to do

Where's all my asian friends at??

Best self-care tips for dealing with loneliness/sadness this time of year? This is my first Christmas without my mom and it just feels like nothing will ever be the same again 😭. If you’ve lost a parent can you give me advice on getting through the holidays? Being a parentalish figure to my students is both healing and heartbreaking.

Does ADHD have a big impact on your memory? It feels like if I don't have constant reminders set or leave notes for myself I can forget ANYTHING even if it's really important to me. I think it's making my partner feel like I don't remember the things they say or don't care to listen. What can I do?? Not on medication but if it helps with this I'd take it.

I applied to B schools and while I got into a school I'm very happy with, another school that was my #1 rejected me outright when I felt I had a great shot. Furthermore, that school was close to both my and my wife's families. So despite the school im attending being better for my career, I can't help but feel that I've let my wife and both of our families down.

This is really starting to eat at me, to the point of having nightmares and waking up anxious. Any tips on how to get over this?...

Taking family trip to Chicago mid-September. Any family friendly recs good for an 18 month toddler (things to do, non fancy lunch spots, etc)? Also thinking residence inn downtown for space. Others?

Anyone stuck in an unhappy marriage? How do you deal with loneliness of this profession and complicated family life

My fiancé will NOT stop talking about her ex. After I found out they were texting arguing she justified it by saying it was about the dogs and not them. Even though Her social media is full of his pics. She still sends him $50 a month for dog food, still goes to work right by his place and suspiciously needs keys. I try to bring it up and I get dismantled for being too mean and making “false accusations.” How much more obvious can it be?

Does anyone feel bad seeing friends when you’re job hunting? Just feel like I don’t deserve a dinner out and will feel bad comparing myself since they are all doing fine.

How does one get on at a family office?

Been dating for a little over a year, but she hasn’t introduced me to her family yet. I don’t have any plans for thanksgiving this year, and she didn’t invite me to spend the holiday with her family (local). Is it still too early or is it a red flag?

Everyone likes me because I'm a doormat with no boundaries. I do anything and say anything to make people happy. I will think what you think I should think. Will you be my friend?

Unsure if my bf and I are incompatible or if I’m not compromising enough. How do you know the difference? He has so many great qualities that I love but also lacks some qualities that I would like to have but idk if I would be giving up on someone that is great for little things.

I deeply miss my ex. The breakup was initiated by me 5 years ago because I was scared to commit. Since then, I’ve gotten married and have a daughter. I’m so embarrassed to admit it but I think about my ex everyday. I am so sad that I walked away from him. Life is ok now - I’m thankful for my family but my heart hurts. How do I move on?

Which of the following, if any, are damaging to an attorney’s professional reputation and odds at equity partnership? DWI, bankruptcy, or divorce.

Breakup etiquette- we broke up and I was supposed to go to his relatives’s wedding in a couple of weeks. I know the couple, not super well, but have hung out and texted individually as well. Should I let them know I won’t be attending and wish them well or don’t reach out to them?

Is it normal to feel depressed/lonely during wedding planning? I almost feel like I can’t talk about it since other people aren’t engaged and I feel like I’m rubbing it in their faces talking about it. So I have to keep everything to myself and it’s kind of stressful

I love watching my 3-year-old's engineering hacks... he wanted to pet the cat so he built a fort out of pillows and waited, now the cat's purring on his lap and they're both asleep

Comforting others:
When someone tells me bad news regarding their health, I say everything I am supposed to say (I’m sorry to hear that, I’m here for you, etc) EXCEPT “everything is going to be ok”. Because I can’t guarantee that and I really don’t know if everything is going to be ok. I was taken aback recently when a friend told me I am calloused and cold-hearted for not being able to say those words. Is she right? Should I start saying this for the purposes of providing comfort only??

How do you deal with trying to live and establish a life of your own but also making sure to grateful and aware of the sacrifices your family has made to get you to where you are now?

Thoughts on ARKF?

Best happy hour/drink specials?

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For remote folks: am I more likely to find a remote role that allows me to move around multiple times during my tenure at a big FAANG-like company, or a startup? what are things I should look out for in my search?

I have to keep so much systematized and scheduled for my job and organizationally I'm a mess. Does anyone have a fool-proof, ADHD-proof system for office and online organization? My life feels like a browser with 20 tabs open right now and I am losing it.

Is 730 enough to compensate a 3.3 gpa at t15? ORM, B4 non-strategy with 4 YOE.

What does it mean when you are in pending status in the Nike app, for a pair of new releases sneakers 👟? New to this

For those who came to London thru their firm’s global mobility program, what sort of visa did you get? And was it a route to settlement? (IE did that time count towards getting ILR eventually)?

How do you predict the Chinese markets will react to the Evergrande news when they open? (their markets are closed until then)

How do you get into AB testing? I’m in data science would like to get that experience.

What is it like to work in a design and development team in sap labs as full stack abap developer?

BakerTilly people, what application do you use to prepare your financial statements? Do you use word/excel?

It’s a new week!! Target to win 🏆.. Win! And keep winning!

This is related to increment/hike.
Promoted to Manager from Senior Consultant 2 in Business Consulting Risk Advisory. Current package is INR 17.5 L fixed with 7.5 years of total work experience. Bonus received is 25%.

Can someone please tell what would be the revised fixed compensation (how much hike can I expect). Also, whether will be promoted to M1 Or M2. Thanks.

🐠 in Maui. I’m planning to visit in about 2-3 weeks. Wanted to see if you think it’s worth postponing given the big storm that just passed by. Or was the impact relatively minor? Hope all is well 🙏

Any recommendations to where to eat in Paris? Looking for suggestions on best to grab breakfast, lunch and dinner and if possible best brunch places. Thanks in advance! (:

My mood has been fluctuating so much lately. Some days (yesterday) I wake up feeling invincible and some days (today) want to hide myself the rest of the world and feel like nothing will ever get better. I’m trying to push myself to make plans with other ppl and am really self-conscious about it cuz I don’t want ppl to see me in low spirit.. any ideas on how to fix that?

How do you determine whether your inability to get out of bed in the mornings is due to depression or mere avoidance of all the crushing work and stress that awaits you? Still WFH and now beginning to get worried at how late I’m getting out of bed these last few weeks and feeling completely unmotivated to do anything.

I’ve been getting really depressed out of nowhere. It’s not really related to anything that’s going on in my life. Is there something wrong with the chemicals in my brain or something? I’m taking vitamin B12 and D3 but they’re not really helping

I’m unstaffed for the first time this week, which means that no one wants to book me. Not even for BD. I have been crying all day and start having suicidal thoughts again.

I am done trying to pretend everything is fine at work. The higher ups on the team kept asking if I’m doing anything fun for the weekend during video calls. I felt the pressure to make something up but I just can’t. I’ve been struggling with depression, loneliness, anxiety with immigration and the fact that I might be out of work soon cuz my visa is expiring. I’m thousands of miles away from my family and I just want everything to stop. But when my manager kept asking in front of everyone am I

Just started Zoloft. Can I drink? I know it’s I’ll advised, but will it destroy my liver or just add to the depression?

My anxiety has been relatively constant during this whole wfh covid situation so I haven’t been wanting to be intimate with my partner as often. They said its bringing down their mood, any advice?

I have been faking and slacking for last 2 years. I am not being pushed and challenged at work. Nobody bothers to follow-up on my work. I take my sweet time to do the bare minimum. I took a break for depression and came back . Still I didn’t have the enthusiasm to do the work.Should I just quit and figure out what I really want to do ?

What “self help” books are you guys reading? I just read Untamed by Glennon Doyle and wow, I want to start from the beginning again, but feel like I should read something else. Would love any suggestions.

My sister told me I gained a lot of face fat during quarantine and that really hurt my feelings. I’ve gained 20 pounds in quarantine but actively try to take care of myself, unlike her. I workout, eat healthy, drink water. She’s always naturally been skinny and gets to eat whatever she wants and literally never works out. I just feel shitty that she said that to me. Am I being too sensitive?

My ex and I have trouble remaining broken up. We’ve broken up over 9 times (9 times!). It’s dysfunctional, but we generally love being around each other and it feels comfortable. What to do? (Cont)

How does someone like Elon Musk can go on to do so much while I can barely get out of my bed, keep my job and have the will to live?

Wish I could just stay asleep for the rest of my life

I struggle with perfectionism and anxiety and this job seems to not help. How can I learn to be less of a perfectionist in a job that highly rewards this kind of behavior?

When it comes to therapy do I look up a place online and make an appointment or do I need some sort of referral? Not sure if I need to see a therapist or physiatrist really.

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I have not been brought up religious but I am beginning to think, I’d like to have faith in something. Doesn’t need to be dogmatic, but having a foundational belief in good things to come is probably essential and for someone like me who needs to work so hard to be happy, I wonder if being a part of a spiritual group can help. Does anyone have recommendations for what I can look into? I get there are many churches but has something helped you guys?

I almost self harmed but stopped by grabbing something strong and drinking it straight. I've calmed down a little but this is the first time I turned to alcohol to cope. As long as I don't mix it with pills it's ok right.... I'm deep in self hate & shame now.

Are any of you sleeping all the time? Like all the time? I wake up, get some coffee and then I have no idea what to do from there. I have no reason to be awake.