I think it’s over with my SO of 3 years. He tells me he loves me and wants to work things through but has lied to me several times in the past - some which were the same mistake three times. He knows he needs professional help (he’s also on antidepressants and has PTSD) but I don’t know how I can trust him again. Feeling completely broken - cannot believe the situation we’re in. I’m so sad my heart is breaking and I don’t know what to do

The sudden death of a friend has made me realize that my obsession with goals has caused me to miss out on so much of my life. How can I learn to refocus and make time for the people in my life?

How to become good friend of manager?

First time Dad and my 15 month old keeps running up the stairs at my in-laws place and they keep encouraging it. Stairs are almost 10 inches high with nothing underneath and I’m worried that he might slip and fall in between the stairs. My FIL is a bit of a know-it-all and keeps insisting it’s safe and I don’t agree. What do I do? Don’t want to fight the entire house full of people about this and kid enjoys it too much and cries a lot if I/we prevent him from climbing

Debating when to have the first baby… would you say having a baby is totally worth it ? Worth all the struggles and sacrifices? Or should I wait an extra year just to save more money and enjoy life now without the extra sacrifices… (female 27 & want to have 2 kids)

I think I’m ready to be a housewife. So tired of this 9 to 5 grind 😩😵‍💫🤧

Edit: it’s more like 24/7 now

Any suggestions on how to save a alcoholic spouse?

Growing up was rough. On my 8th birthday my dad had an accident that led to this death a few days later. He was a good man who took care of us all (I had 3 siblings now 2; lost 1 few years ago). I'm in a good place in life right now I only find myself in the last 5years shedding a tear once a while when I'm alone. It startles me because I was a tough kid who didn't cry and just soaked it all in and rolled with it. I'm almost 40 and can't explain what's happening with these tears.

Need advice and help.

I have realized I grew up in a household where my dad did not treat my mom as an equal. He belittles her, is rude and convinced his way is the only way.

It is painful to say, but some of this shows up in me and in my relationship. I am starting to catch myself, and it to me seems to be more of a reaction than anythjng that is ever intentional.

Wondering if anyone has dealt with something similar, and any success in making changes besides therapy. Cont. in comments

At my uncles wedding in Madrid I remember lying down on the grass in the courtyard after their first dance and crying, my Dad came and saw me, laid down in his suit beside me and asked what was wrong.

“I know my boyfriend wouldn’t dance with me like that at our wedding”

And we just lay there as I cried, and then got up. Had a drink.

Said boyfriend left years ago, and now I have a wonderful man who just asked me what type of dance lessons I want for our wedding next year.

Don’t give up.

Anyone marry their law school sweetheart?

Breakup etiquette- we broke up and I was supposed to go to his relatives’s wedding in a couple of weeks. I know the couple, not super well, but have hung out and texted individually as well. Should I let them know I won’t be attending and wish them well or don’t reach out to them?

Darcy is engaged?!

I’m my partners only associate and I went on parental leave two weeks ago. I feel horrible for leaving him to handle our cases alone, but am trying to focus on my wife and new baby. That being said, should I still offer to handle minor matters that come in to ease the workload off my boss? He’s been super cool during my entire leave, so I don’t feel pressured to one bit.

Whoever said bumble bbfs was great couldn’t have been more right. It’s weird I’ve l been confident in how I look in the last few years but my personality and likability was put into question but instantly I seem to be receiving the friendship attention I like, 50+ likes by 4am on the first day, signed up at 2am. It’s kind of nice to make brand new friends without having a connection or a class together. Old friends and friends or friends sometimes benchmark you and don’t view the new you

I need friends. Feel lonely when everyone else is partying up.

Where are you in your own path to parenthood?

When to break-up with someone? I’ve been dating my gf for 6 years (2 long distance 1yr on a break and 3 living together. Nothing terrible about the relationship but I’m not happy and no longer feel in love. I’ve tried working it out but haven’t felt the relationship has gotten any better. I feel at this point the best thing to do for both of us is split (she shouldn’t be with someone that can’t love her fully). So here’s the options continued…

Since recent events, do you think PSAs are still worth the time & energy?

Hi Fishes,
What is your take on WILP in MBA (offered by Institutes like BITS Pilani)?

I seriously need to take a decision on whether to continue working and enroll in MBA or go for a full fledged MBA course.

Please Help!

I’ve asked about my so called promotion and I just keep getting more into the future dates. Also company is trying to make their # so cutting down on costs. At this point I gave up on asking...is it

when is it appropriate to have a framed Tom of Finland drawing prominently displayed in the office?

Anybody know how soon after your interview is the Oath Ceremony held? Specifically for NY/NYC. Thanks!!!

Accenture with 21.5 lpa fixed (ctc 26.76 lpa) or PWC with 20.5 lpa fixed.

How much annual hike PwC India gives to their employees on an average basis?

Who’s planning on leaving after getting their bonus?

Hi everyone, I have created this bowl to answer questions that professionals might have about immigrating to Canada. I am a Regulated Canadian Immigration Consultant in Vancouver,BC. Ask away!

Anyone here work in economic consulting?

How to move from Barclays India to Barclays UK?

What do you all think of fundrise and start engine Real estate Reit ? Any experience? Would you invest here if you didn’t have the time to actually buy and rent properties? Any insight is welcome.
Thanks

How long does it takes to get the offer letter post HR discussion ? My HR discussion is done 1 week ago and current status is offer approval.

I find it interesting how some CRO's cane come to a company and ruin it, fire a bunch of people, miss their numbers by 50% the board fires them and another company hires them a month later

What’s the culture like at FTI Consulting?

Just started Zoloft. Can I drink? I know it’s I’ll advised, but will it destroy my liver or just add to the depression?

I am so tired of it all. I’ve barely eaten in the last 3 days and had to take a painkiller last night to fall asleep. I’m so overworked and I constantly feel like a piece of sh*t. I don’t even have the energy to move right now and feel like I will faint any minute.

I applied to B schools and while I got into a school I'm very happy with, another school that was my #1 rejected me outright when I felt I had a great shot. Furthermore, that school was close to both my and my wife's families. So despite the school im attending being better for my career, I can't help but feel that I've let my wife and both of our families down.

This is really starting to eat at me, to the point of having nightmares and waking up anxious. Any tips on how to get over this?...

What are tips to stop “hate scrolling,” ie looking at social media opinions/profiles that conflict w your own? Sometimes I find myself doing it just to feel something, but I know it’s bad.

I’m severely depressed, I’m genuinely struggling with a lot. I have suicidal thoughts everyday and am isolated. I have no friends too, is there anyone here who is down to chat for sometime ?

I almost self harmed but stopped by grabbing something strong and drinking it straight. I've calmed down a little but this is the first time I turned to alcohol to cope. As long as I don't mix it with pills it's ok right.... I'm deep in self hate & shame now.

Does anyone get so anxious about work that they can’t eat? The thought of food just makes you want to puke? How to manage? Skipping meals/not eating for a day is unhealthy and will cause weight gain

having vivid violent dreams I can remember which has never happened. Pretty depressed also for reasons. Struggling to get out of bed let alone exercise. Feel inadequate for lacking mental strength

Any recommendation for a therapist around Jersey City/ NYC area? I have called 15 people so far and none of them are taking new clients. This isn't helping my anxiety.

Is anybody diagnosed with adult ADHD? Did you know before joining the firm? How does it affect your work? How do you deal with it?

How have you combated your fear of rejection? I fixate on such small things as when my friends, for example, reject plans I have made. This definitely makes me more averse to putting myself out there and makes me ruminate on past perceived failures, which are clearly not good for personal growth

Are any of you sleeping all the time? Like all the time? I wake up, get some coffee and then I have no idea what to do from there. I have no reason to be awake.

My therapist just told me I'm depressed..do you ever feel like they tell you things you hear a lot or could have figured out on your own? Like take care of yourself, it's ok to feel such and such, etc. I'm still newer to therapy so wondering if that's the common experience? Do you ever have moments where you're like wow that actually is eye opening and I wouldn't have gotten that from reading self help books and websites etc?

My mood has been fluctuating so much lately. Some days (yesterday) I wake up feeling invincible and some days (today) want to hide myself the rest of the world and feel like nothing will ever get better. I’m trying to push myself to make plans with other ppl and am really self-conscious about it cuz I don’t want ppl to see me in low spirit.. any ideas on how to fix that?

I’ve been depressed for years now and this past week I lost a dog I’ve had for 15 years; he was one of the only bright spots in my life and I’ve just found it so hard to focus or motivate myself on anything after this. I genuinely feel like I’m at rock bottom, Idk if I’m crazy to feel that way bc of a dog but I used to be able to control this and put up a front but now my depression and anxiety are starting to leak into my work conversations completely unintentionally, I wish this would stop :(

I struggle with perfectionism and anxiety and this job seems to not help. How can I learn to be less of a perfectionist in a job that highly rewards this kind of behavior?

I was just laid off due to COVID. Felt invincible when the crisis began but now feel lost as if my career was ripped out with the tide. Slowly gaining motivation to get back on top

I’m unstaffed for the first time this week, which means that no one wants to book me. Not even for BD. I have been crying all day and start having suicidal thoughts again.

How do you determine whether your inability to get out of bed in the mornings is due to depression or mere avoidance of all the crushing work and stress that awaits you? Still WFH and now beginning to get worried at how late I’m getting out of bed these last few weeks and feeling completely unmotivated to do anything.

One week into a tough project and it’s taking a toll on my mental and physical health. Haven’t slept well for the past 2 nights (only 3-4 hours sleep).. what should I do