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You just need to be transparent and say work is work. Personal is personal. I would start emailing instructions and conversations to protect yourself. At the end of the day you both are there to get a paycheck and do a job.
Communicate as much as possible through writing so you have things documented. Of course, still keep a normal verbal rapport with her, but document requests, timelines, instruction in email or slack or whatever. People are MUCH more likely to follow up on a written request (even if it’s more informal) and if they don’t, you can point to the request and ask why it isn’t done.
If it’s more general career advice/goals she isn’t acting on, keep a shared running document of 1:1 meeting notes/agenda and each week (or however often your check-ins are) refer to the previous weekend notes and actions items and discuss what has been accomplished and what still needs work.
Basically, make everything as clear and as black-and-white as possible so there’s no room for ambiguity or misunderstanding. It doesn’t have to be bossy, just “matter of fact”.
This is surprisingly common due to resentment
When I end up working for a friend, I go harder