I was hired in May for my current role which I really saw myself spending at least a few years. That said, a recruiter for a competing firm reached out with a managerial role, more aligned with my skillset, and the offer ultimately ended up being a 46% increase in total pay… I’m dreading the conversation with my current boss bc he is a really great guy that I knew for years before he hired me. Any tips on how to start or go about the conversation? I was thinking a card with a personal note.

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I have been in a similar situation before. I did it by saying "Hey boss, I have some bad news and instead of beating around the bush, I'm going to rip the bandaid off...I was offered another job at XYZ and they offered me 1 Trillion Billion Dollars. I am going to accept it (or have already accepted) and I want to finish off my two weeks with you or train my replacement blah blah. I value you and the company and I have learned alot, but This decision is best for me and my family".

No one can argue with "this decision is best for me and my fam" lol. I always mention the pay the new company offered to give existing company a chance to match it.

Good luck!

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If your current employer is someone you've known for years, then I'm sure he understands that this is something you're doing for your own benefit, and he shouldn't hold that against you. You would be dumb to pass on an opportunity like this and he will realize that, so don't fee; bad because at the end of the day, it's what's good for you.

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That's a great opportunity. However, you should decide based on your goal. If you want the offer, the be honest with your boss. It's for your career growth so he'll undestand it. Good luck!

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Just be straight with him. A note/card is impersonal and not a good idea for a resignation. Just tell him exactly what happened, as you wrote above.
50% is a BIG pay raise, but also understandable if it fits your skill set better.
If he is really a great guy he will totally understand, and be happy for you.
The note / card could come later, maybe on your last day in the office. Then it could work well

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Wow, what a great opportunity! And a difficult position to find yourself in. Definitely meet with your current boss and explain the situation, let him know that you can't say no to that pay increase but you're disappointed to have to go so soon. Let him know that you appreciate the time you've spent working with him but you'd hate to pass up such a wonderful offer. In the long run, it takes more than a nice boss to pay the bills -- he knows that and should be understanding. Good luck to you! :)

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If they could offer you what your new job will, would you stay?

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You have a good relationship with your boss. But if you want to keep it that way during your resignation and after, I suggest you give your notice in person. You could send an email to schedule a meeting; your boss will likely already know what is to come.

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Just be honest. It's a difficult situation, yes, and it's upsetting that you have to have that conversation, but at the end of the day, you're leaving for something that will increase not only your pay but also your opportunities. Best of luck!

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Don't feel guilty. If the company ran into financial trouble, they wouldn't stress quite as much about letting you go. Business is business! If your boss is a good guy he will understand.

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I think if that's good of a opportunity...go for it. Personally, I would just do the whole it's not you, it's me thing. I took my boss out for a coffee and we had a frank chat about it. They understood where I was coming from so it wasn't too bad

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A card or personal note is great. But at the end of the day a good manager will be understanding of you needing to do what is best for you and your career goals.

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I just wanted to let you all know just how much I appreciate all the kind words of wisdom and encouragement. Thanks to all!

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