I'm 33 and my wife is 30. I have been married for 3+ years. And in these 3+ years we would have had sex for like 5-6 times. First time I had sex after marriage was 10 months after getting married.
It's always painful for her. We have tried medications as well but it's still painful for her. Sometimes I feel she's just lazy and don't want to endure any pain. She weighs 77 kgs and she can't even hold her legs high in missionary position. The moment I start penetrating she'll pull her legs down.

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See, I'm Muslim. So in instances like this, we'd get second wife. Might be worth a look. Everyman had needs and wants to have kids.

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Why ever did the EU vote so strongly for the party trying to stop MENA immigration? I’m shocked, shocked I tell you.

First—legs raised isn’t mandatory for missionary, so not sure where you learned that. Second—not sure why her weight is relevant at all here. Third—she is not “lazy” if she’s avoiding pain, and to be a good husband, you should understand that. Finally, three words of advice: foreplay, lube, therapy.

I know a woman who it took years of going to a doctor, couples sex therapy, and using a dilator for her and her husband to comfortably have sex. Now they love it. Don’t give up, just put in the effort and listen to her.

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OK, this sounds tough, sorry. But ima get up out of this channel.

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Why?

Have you spoken to a medical professional. I had a lot of pain for a long time and it was due to endemetriosis.

It might be worth a look. I had surgery and no more pain.

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Yes absolutely.

Sounds like not enough with foreplay to make her adequately ready for penetration. Focus more on the foreplay and romance instead of just getting it in. If she isn’t physically ready it will hurt.

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Check out the podcast Where Should We Begin by Ester Perel and thank me later!

Also: FOREPLAY!! And stop watching porn if you are. 2 months without it will open your mind things you don’t know existed.

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I'm thanking you right now!
Btw I see there are a few episodes in this. Are you referring to any specific episode or all of it?

The whole time I just keep requesting her to hold her legs so that i can penetrate. If we try doggy style, she'll move ahead the moment i try to penetrate.
And all of this has been happening since the very start.
And this also we tried only like 20-30 times in these 3 years. Rest of the time she's happy to just masturbate and sleep.

Don't know what the fck problem is. I'm an average looking guy, I didn't get much sex before marriage and now this is happening.
I feel like cheating on her at times. I do love her a lot but I can't stay without sex my whole life.

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Well could be a medical issue. See a gynaecologist

Why does she need yo hold her legs high? Also, why did you wait 10 months after being married to have sex? Arranged marriage? Female here and I don't understand not having sex with your spouse.

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OP, bruh…

Are you SURE you’re going for the right hole if it always hurts, doesn’t fit, and she NEEDS to have her legs held high for you to reach it?

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I wish we could have this discussion in person together after a couple drinks and a bottle of whiskey. There’s still a lot to uncover.

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Are you having foreplay?

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Fore what??

Yeah tried that a lot.Still same result.

Question: was she a virgin when you got married?

I just looked it up, they’re called vaginal dilators, and there’s something called dilator therapy. Maybe it’s something you want to look into with her. But you’ve got to get the sex in order, and I feel really bad for you. Very difficult for a man to go without for so long. Hope you guys work it out.

Research vaginismus; it sounds like it. She can see a specialist for this and get the right support and treatment. Try to approach it from a place of empathy. Imagine if you had an ED and this is how she was talking about you instead of being kind and compassionate?

Tried spanking or foreplay?

I seriously doubt someone already experiencing pain during sex is going to appreciate that.

How old is she??

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