I'm pretty good at casual hookups but as soon as I catch feelings I come on too strong and scare the other person away

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We’re all guilty of what you say you’re doing. That’s why I cut out casual hookups. It’s very “tough” to ride out in the beginning. Casually hooking up is a drug in itself.

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Accenture 1 - I'll know because if I wanna be with them I'll want them to stay after hooking up, sleep over, grab breakfast the next day, etc. (just to be clear I always let them stay even if I don't want to be with them for safety reasons bc I don't want them going home alone at night)

What are some examples of you coming on too strong?

Squirting without a towel under you

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I'm actually going to give you the exact opposite advice (36 F) : keep doing what you're doing and if they are scared away because you want to spend more time, they're not the one for you. Playing games, hiding how you feel etc... That's just a waste of energy and time and not enough time spent enjoying life.

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