Hi all,

There is guy living near my place and i find him really attractive. And sometimes I come across him in the gym. But I'm not sure if he likes me or not. How to handle this situation?
Any suggestions?

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Just go up and talk to him.

I never understand why that's not always the answer, guys are 100x more approachable than women in this type of dating context.

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Yup exactly. Women literally have it easy, so it’s best to take advantage of it.

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Don’t listen to the people saying to ask him on a date. Trust me — the vast majority of men need to feel like they’ve worked for you or served you in some capacity for things to work. When you approach a man with “giving”/masculine energy, you will bring out too much of his “receiving”/feminine energy, which will either repel him or create a dynamic where you need to take the masculine energy role to continue the relationship. This doesn’t mean you can’t approach him or flirt with him — just that he needs to believe he is leading the dance.

Next time you see him at the gym keep trying to make eye contact with him and give him a smile. If he doesn’t come up to you after that, approach him and ask him if he could teach you whatever work out he’s doing (even if you already know it — men like to think they’ve helped you or taught you something and he will subconsciously feel he has invested in you by doing this). If he doesn’t ask you out by the end of this then tell him “You’re a cool guy. I’d like to get to know you more.” Then let him lead with the next move.

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A1 we are saying the same thing advice-wise so I assume you agree at the end of the day that she should not straight up ask him on a date. This is all subconscious matters. What people truly want vs what they say they want tends to never align

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I would write out your number and give it to him next time you bump into him outside of the gym. Just walk up “hey I’ve noticed you around, here’s my number if you ever want to grab a drink”

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Don’t do this

Start with a “Hi” see if he engages, talk about something mutual or about the weekend, maybe something about not having plans.
If he doesn’t seem that into it, scrap it! Most likely means he is taken or doesn’t find you particularly attractive/or his type. Best of all if he does happen to be interested he feels better about speaking to you and if he’s interested he’ll most likely approach you next time.

Most men will not even look or engage with you long enough (long being key word) if they don’t at least think you’re pretty.

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Walk up to him and say:"I want to make babies with you." 🤣🤣

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OP please don’t do this

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Do not ask random people on dates. Be a normal human and say hi, start a conversation. They may have a partner or not be into your gender or any number of other things. But you may become friends or more than friends or they may introduce you to the love of your life.

Start with being a normal person and saying hi.

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I probably wouldn't ask him out on a date, but the next time you see him, mention that you've seen him around a couple of times, ask if he's new to the area, something to get the convo going and see what happens. He could have a gf, he could be gay, there could be any number of reasons it would be a bad idea to blatantly ask him on a date. But I think starting a convo is an excellent place to start to gauge his interest.

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This!

ask him out on a date!! not much to lose in the long rhn

Judged by who? That’s just the voice inside your head giving you excuses to not do things lol

Talk to him…

Did he show interest when you talked to him? Body language, tone, etc?

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