Do men in their 30s actually want to settle down and get married? It seems like most are pretty happy with their single lifestyle. Asking as a 26F who is looking for commitment if I should even bother

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31 M single - I’ll try and offer a male perspective. At 31 man I feel that I’m coming into my own. My career, maturity, confidence - light years ahead of where I was when 25. I’m not perfect, but know I have a lot to offer and dont want to settle. I’m hoping to marry to next gal I have a long term relationship with - so gotta be sure!

I think there are tons of guys in there 30s who would love date you seriously. My question to you is are you going after what you want (a serious relationship).

We will let you know when we interested. I promise. Take mixed signals as a no, and stay away from dead end dating.

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Truth A1, same boat

I’m looking to settle down and get married (33 M here). But I also expect some longer term dating first (like 2 years) before considering marriage

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Yes this is a good point you noticed

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You’re not crazy Op — no one wants to get married especially in the big cities

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Way too many 20 somethings on here to make this a 30’s and 40’s bowl

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This is true

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Odds are that if a guy made it to 30 he realized he could have his cake and eat it too. I can date my age, I can date 10 years younger, I can have a kid with a mistress, I can have two homes, I can have a single home with someone on the side... a man at 30 has limitless possibilities that are only encouraged by the latest version of feminism. Between that and the global war on the nuclear family, men are having an easier time not caring about “white feather” type attacks and family’s requests for grandchildren OR normalized relations.


Does the above sound like a train wreck? Because it is. We’re not making the rules, we’re just adapting and overcoming.

This from a guy who originally wanted to get married at 25, and have three or four kids while living in suburbia. I’m not happy about the reality either, but I just go with the flow at this point.

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Dating guys in their early 30s or just date guys in their 20s and wait till they get their shit together?

Date strategically not complacently.

OP - 26M here. DM me

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