I’m scheduled to come back from maternity leave in 1 week and having a complete freakin mental breakdown 😭 I’m crying about 16 times a day and cannot fathom dropping my baby off at daycare. I just do not feel like I’ve had enough time. This is my 2nd baby so I thought it would feel easier but it doesn’t. I feel like I’m mourning the end of my pregnancy/postpartum chapter and really don’t want it to end and go back to real life. Any advice? Maybe it hurts more because I know it’s my last baby.

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Maybe controversial, and it may not work for everyone… but I went from daycare to a nanny (I mostly work from home), and it was life changing. I no longer stress about drop offs and not seeing my babies throughout the day. I know they are getting the one-on-one care they need. And frankly, for my area, it was only slightly more expensive to have a nanny vs having two in daycare.

If you need to work, are there ways to make your childcare a better fit for you and your mental health?

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It’s hard and very overwhelming to go back to work and a stressful routine. Are you able to ease into it and start off part time for a few weeks while you adjust?

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Can you take more time?

I was having a rough postpartum and took an extra 6 weeks off. It was good for me. I hope you can too.

So with my 1st, I went to my doctor and told them I was experiencing postpartum anxiety and depression and also was experiencing difficulty rehabbing from birth (which was true; had a difficult delivery) and they gave me a dr note that extended paid leave 4 weeks. With my second, my baby was a really bad sleeper and was still waking every 2 hours at 4 months so I extended unpaid leave 6 weeks. DM me if you would like to strategize.

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Does your husband make enough for you to quit?

Is it an option for him to quit and stay home for the first year or two (or even a few months), and would he be willing? That's what we did and it made going back to work so much easier for me.

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