I’m working on a new feature, and I heard that a colleague disagreed with the direction. I’ve reached out to the colleague directly a couple times, trying to share the designs, and be collaborative. I found out that he contacted my manager and asked to discuss it, I’m insulted and offended. Any advice?

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How did you know about this? What’s your manager’s reaction? IMHO you manager should have redirected that person to you. Discussed with you about your side of the story.

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Are you included in that discussion as well? I would hope your manager would include you and this way your manager has your back as you are well equipped to make decisions as a senior product manager and perhaps this person should learn to engage with you directly next time. I’m curious, is your manager a male also?

Sounds like this person is conflict avoidant. Not your fault or problem, honestly. Make sure your supervisor is aware of your efforts to collaborate. Document, document, document. This is on them, not you.

Make sure all offers to collaborate are documented via email or teams or chat channels. Include them in team reviews of the design, requirements etc as optional to show you did give them a chance. If the time comes where you have to defend yourself, then you can show that you really tried.
How did you find out the person reached out to your manager? From your manager? What was his/her reaction?

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