Having one of the worst weeks of my life but my bosses would flip if I used a personal day. Meanwhile in the office I’m getting bitchy emails and attitude per usual. How does one deal / stay sane?

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You just have to use a personal day. That is why you get them. They can flip, but the reality is there is never a perfect time to be out of the office, and also you are your priority, or so you need to remind yourself.

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When I’ve been in awful situations with no end in sight, I’ve found a photo album of the people in my life who make me happy to be a welcome reprieve for when I’d otherwise snap.

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I'm right here with you. Don't know what to tell you.

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What good are you to anyone if you aren't 100%? Take your personal day.

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I hope it gets better for you. Take a personal day, more than one, as it sounds like you need it. Mental health is just as important as physical health. Perspective is the thing you (and it sounds like your bosses) need. There is no deadline or email or meeting that can't be postponed or covered by someone else. Try being honest with people that you have personal stuff you need to prioritize, everyone has it at some point and it's probably the reason they're sending bitchy emails and flipping out too. Hang in there and take care OP

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As a coder friend of mine who works at a startup used to delight in saying to his marketing person, “There’s no such thing as a "marketing emergency”. But there are such things as personal and mental ones. If you have to, make it a sick day.

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