Is it acceptable to recommend your spouse for a position within your company, and is it advisable to make the referral discreetly without explicitly mentioning the relationship? The position is in a different department, and you won't be involved in the hiring process.

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Story time. I met my wife at previous company, we worked in multiple site startups while dating/married but always in different departments. Previous company was very large multinational F50 company, they had no issues and were quite supportive.

I jumped ship to a diff company, actually larger and like F10. Anyway after moving I encouraged wife to move or look for different jobs in general. An opening turned up on my team under my same boss.

I reached out to my boss, told her my wife was interested (she has similar qualifications to me) and looks like a good fit based on need. She said cool and told me to have wife apply. I told my boss I obviously vouch for her capabilities and am happy to share any reference info if asked, but I’m clearly biased and once my wife applied I’d let my know her name and info and from there I’d stay out of it.

Wife applied, got job. Boss didn’t care we were married as we kind of work in different areas though we collaborate sometimes. I’ve since moved to a different team. Aside from a few times where a coworker didn’t realize we were married (usually kind of a wow I had no idea moment) , never been any issues. We don’t keep it a secret, but don’t advertise it either, we both do our thing and take care of our work and only really share it purposefully when we’re at work dinners or whatever as it’s kind of more obvious when we arrive and leave together.

You’ll have to sign a conflict of interest form and honestly you need to be able to separate professional things from home. It’s nice to rant to each other about shared work grievances though lol.

Just be up front about it, if it’s a small org there may be constraints to how much you can get promoted as neither of you can be in each other’s reporting line. Don’t make it awkward for anyone either, be prepared for them to be rejected and make it clear that you believe they are a good fit for the role, but you will stay out of the process unless asked because you clearly have a bias. No one at your work wants to feel like you’re gonna be upset at them if they reject your spouse lol.

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No. Not a good look when it comes to light.

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Hi!
I know people who have done that in the past and it all turned out to be good for both of them. Though they were transparent about relationships and their company policies allowed for such recommendations (especially because different departments were in question).

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Probably not but you are a real one for thinking about it 💯

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I specifically told myself to not marry someone who is remotely in the same field as I am. My spouse is in a field that is always in demand.

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