Is it normal to make your fiancés brother/sister a groomsman if they make your sibling a bridesmaid?

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Don’t feel obligated, choose who you want to be in your party.

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personally yes unless there is a super valid reason otherwise. Otherwise 😬

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I think if your spouse’s side includes your siblings it is common to include theirs (but shouldn’t be required). Personally, I am going to avoid it. I think unless you have a relationship with their sibling it will just be awkward to include them

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It is but personally we avoided that

It’s a modern invention (the whole inviting-opposite-sex-siblings to be in the other person’s wedding party) and creates these weird “obligations.”

So the answer is “Yes, it’s commonplace (because many other people do it) but it shouldn’t be an obligation (because it’s not a traditional thing).”

Many people confuse “commonplace” with normal and obligatory (which is is not) and get upset because they think a rule has been broken. When in fact, the traditional rule is that you do NOT have members of the spouse’s family in your wedding party at all. It ruins the whole meaning and symbolism of two families coming together and being joined as one in the wedding ceremony.

I actually had my sister in law and her daughters on my hubbys side and I had my 4 guy cousins on my side. I am not close to her or her kids so I didn’t want her on my side but my hubby wanted them in the wedding. I am super close to my cousins so it worked

We put each others siblings in our wedding party. We aren’t friends per se with each other’s siblings, but we both like them and get along well with them. For us, it wasn’t worth dealing with a lifetime of hurt feelings and awkwardness, especially since there isn’t any bad blood or animosity there. I know this isn’t the case for everyone, and if there were any issues there then maybe things would be different. But in our situation, we didn’t have any reason not to include them and we figured why rock the boat otherwise.

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