Just found out I’m pregnant and received a job offer from a tech company. The offer is exciting, but their policy is that paid parental leave only kicks in after 12 months of employment. If I accept the offer, I’d be starting in early August, which would put me at around 7–8 months with the company by the time I give birth.

I don’t want to disclose the pregnancy this early - is it reasonable to ask for an exception to the leave policy. Anyone been in a similar situation? What would you do?

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If you don’t care about the potential offer going away since you seem happy in your current Role, I don’t see any harm in asking the way you noted here. I wouldn’t be surprised if they offered nothing and/or some middle ground solution at the most though, so worth thinking about what amount of leave if any would make it worth jumping ship. Good luck and congrats!!

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The other context is that this job offer isn't at my dream company (though salary increase is solid), and I'm currently employed at a company with 5 months of paid parental leave. so part of me feels that I have a strong alternative - which is just staying at my current company offering 5 months of leave, and then looking in the future. If i choose to disclose, and this future company won't give me anything in writing, I may be inclined not to take the offer.

I think your suggested wording is super smart. Given your current leave policy, you do have a real reason to stay at your current job, so it makes sense to negotiate that up front before accepting. (Currently in month 1 of my 5 month leave and I would not give it up easily. I have no idea how people make by with just a few weeks before returning to work and figuring out childcare.)

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They would probably prorate their policy for you

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