My boss patted me on the head once. I confronted him about it and told him it was belittling. His response? "I would have done it to any of the male trainees."

Funny. I'm not a trainee, nor have I seen him pat any other person's head.

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Continue to set your boundaries. Stand up for yourself. He didn’t want to admit he was wrong. It is not acceptable.

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That’s ridiculous

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Last year my boss, at the time, told me it was time to go for lunch and socialize. Then stood behind me until I got up to go. There was so much I wanted to say in that moment. I asked when nap time was.

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