I blacked out and hit on a coworker at a work-related event. I would never have normally done it (aside from the stupid amounts of alcohol in my system) and they are in a committed relationship, making everything so much worse.

No idea how I’m going to interact with them in basically every meeting I have for now until I leave the company.

likefunny
Posting as :
works at
You are currently posting as works at
Highlighted IconHIGHLIGHTED

Reach out to the coworker and sincerely apologize. It might not undo the damage but it’s a lot better than doing nothing

like

100% start here.

It’s possible they or someone else who witnessed reported your behavior. I’d reach out to apologize, given you feel uncomfortable, they probably feel even more so.

But you have to work on your behavior and alcohol consumption. It’s not an excuse.

like
Recent IconRecent

Apologize. Also, get your drinking under control.

like

When will people finally learn not to get drunk at work-related events?

like

It’s free booze, duh

Yikes.
If HR gets wind of this …

likefunny

I’m sorry you had a bad experience.
We’re not all horrible.

like

Set up a call with your coworker, clear out the air, and apologize profusely. That you did not mean it to disrespect and recognize that it's not acceptable - will go a long way. Be proactive and act today.
This can land you serious trouble otherwise.

like

Are you M or F? And was the co-worker M or F?

If this a straight F - M interaction, then usually it’s not a biggie. But if M - F , then you can be in trouble.

PS: Before anyone says that it’s not how things should be, that’s not the point. We live in a certain reality where harassment is unfortunately determined by the gender of intiatior generally speaking.

like

Pwc3 no because that’s racism and racism’s bad. Sexism is only bad when its directed towards women, not when it’s directed towards men

There was a thread here 1-2 weeks ago where someone was let go because of something like this

like

Link? I’d like to take a look. Cant believe I missed this

I misread this as you punched your coworker. My serious suggestion is that you set up time to talk to this person and apologize. Say something to the effect that you had too much to drink and you regret saying anything that made them uncomfortable. Treat this very seriously and formally- do not make it into a joke.

Also, do you supervise this person or in any way is there a power dynamic? If so, you need to recognize why that may be a problem going forward no matter what you do now. With all due respect, it’s a serious lapse in judgment you need to reflect on. You may need to offer to have some change in staffing to avoid working with this person for the time being.

likefunny

Lol I read that too!

How do you know if you blacked out? Was she there as well?

likefunny

No, maybe my question wasn’t clear. How does OP know she hit on him if she blacked out? That’s one question, who told OP? Second question is, was OPs wife there while she was doing it?

like

Do you regularly start your sentences with:

“I blacked out and…”?

like

In vino veritas my friend.

like

You’re just being paranoid, completely fine

like

From my experience, every company event that includes alcohol also includes some kind of flirting (from all genders). Not saying that is great. But as long as there are no clearly inappropriate words or touching, most people would just shrug it off.
An apology is rarely a bad thing, but I would choose a setting and wording that doesn’t make it a bigger thing than necessary.

like

You’re gaslighting yourself ✋👍

like

Reach out to coworker asap and apologize. If nothing else you will get a good sense of the vibe. Maybe they are flattered, think it’s funny or NBD. But if you get the cold shoulder, prepare for HR.

It happens! Apologize to the co worker, forgive yourself, and this to shall pass.

Welcome to the real world where actions have consequences

Related Posts

Let’s start by posting age, location gender (a selfie if you want!) I’m 30/M from nyc looking for something more serious these days in terms of dating..

likesmart

Do partners cheat on their significant others while traveling? Stories please.

like

“You have a good looking face. But your body is absolute junk."

funnylike

Gotta love when a client doesn’t catch their own mistakes until the final round and then asks why you fucked it up....

like

Any Paki F from DMV area here? 👀

Mercedes-Benz Research & Development India If I like a girl in office, Can I approach her directly or via social media or via teams?Tata Consultancy Infosys EY KPMG Mercedes-Benz Research & Development India Volvo

likefunny

I got feedback from my manager telling me that I should always have an opinion, which is very hard in group settings, esp. when people are talking about a topic unrelated to my module. Any thoughts ?

A toxic co-worker tried to throw me under the bus to cover their mistake in a call with leadership 😢😢. I showed the proof of conversation the next moment without hesitation to everyone. Suddenly their tone changes and tries to divert the topic 😒😒. I am distraught 🙁🙁

likeupliftingfunny

Any people looking to date in Atlanta ? 40 F

like

Any single nyc men ages 32-49 interested in dining with me at one of these phenomenal restaurants, once they open back up? F/39
Chikarashi Isso, Atera, Jungsik, Wayan, Atomix or Eleven Madison.

likefunny

Is anyone else exhausted with their consulting staff thinking they’re gods? Being treated with disrespect constantly by them is so draining. How do you manage your responses to them that’s not a 30 second turnaround?

likesmartfunny

In my 40s, here in the larger NYC area for a couple weeks visiting family. Male, athletic. If anyone's interested in chatting (admittedly in a playful mood currently, so that's my current preference), drop me a DM.

likefunny

Dating my guy for 6 months now and he’s just such a lovely soul but I’m not physically attracted, there’s no spark and I’m afraid to let go but also afraid to keep holding on..

like

How often do you have sex? How long have you been together? I’m lucky if I get it 1x a week and I’m getting frustrated.

like

Seriously don't know how to get a boyfriend as an IB analyst, most people who are in a relationship started dating since college. Really don't want to be single when I'm 30•••

like

any single asian men in here interested to drink

like

@guys, is it weird if a girl you don’t know DMs you and says she came across your profile on Hinge/thinks you’re cute? Is that creepy?

Context: I swiped right on a guy but he hasn’t matched with me so not sure if he X me out or just hasn’t checked the app (it’s been 2 days)

like

How to ask for a raise when you have more responsibility ?
Is it normal for people to ask for a raise when more responsibility/task fall under them? My company is going through separation and unfortunately my team is the one getting separated, I have to take on responsibility of another 3 people and continue to deliver the same after separation… how will you start this conversation with your manager ? Thanks in advance.

Talking to the opposite sex at the gym: yes or no? (Or same sex)

like

Happy pride month fam.

I’m a bit sad today. My gym crush forgot my name. I guess he’s not into me. 🥺😭

Post Photo
likefunny

More Posts

I have a strong junior book and won a Gold Pencil in the Young Ones recently, but can't seem to find a single job lead anywhere. Anybody know who in LA I should reach out to?

like

Hello!
I am new here and would love to get some likes, so I can DM people. Thanks :)

likeuplifting

How much are new hires in advisory making now in Ny? Just curios to see how much it went up since I started 3 years ago

like

As other global firms are calling their employees back to office ? Will pwc ac follow the same or will continue to provide option of working from home .

Any roles within Big 4 that would hire with no degree? Could be anything - doesn’t have to be consulting. Asking for a friend! TIA!

What are some aspects of a quality band program?

like

What’s the top end of SM salary on advisory in Deloitte? This is at MCOL

like

How is mphasis jpmc client

like

Where’s the McK group owner who banned Lane for being way less inconvenient than this Capgemini futurologist?

like

Nano rising rapidly, great team and good roadmap. Look at the review by Datadash on YouTube

like

$Link 👀. Drop down to $11 area or keep pushing up?

like

Facebook Ads after iOS 14 changes.

I'll share my experience and urge you to share yours:

Since iOS 14 changes, Facebook ads isn't the same anymore. Why?

A. >75% iOS users denied tracking. They are no longer tracked across websites/apps. Facebook lost its edge.
B. Targeting and conversion tracking aren't as effective anymore.
C. Many advertisers have been migrating their budgets from Facebook to Apple and Amazon ads.

What's your experience? Let's all learn.

#FacebookAds

like

See a lot of people slamming their “big firm” experience and wanting to move on from it. I’ve got 2YOE but not at a big firm and can’t help feeing I’m missing out on something (name brand, skills, network etc). Is it better not to chase it and go somewhere else (tech / startups etc) rather than trying to get in at entry level ?

like

New things went in on 11th Street in the Heights and Boomers on Nextdoor are upset

Post Photo
likefunny

Hi ,working as solution architect and I work on MDM(master data management) product and oracle plsql development..I am GCP certified with cloud engineer,architect and professional data engineer . I worked on some POCs for data migration using GCP.
How and where can I apply for cloud jobs? Suggestions please?

like

Hey all can anyone tell me about the salary of a aws cloud data engineer? ( fresher)

Any good restaurant for drinks and food for a team outing in the loop? Preferably near the water or good views

like

@Manager1 what’s the JWN play today?

My parents are visiting this week and mom and I made dinner tonight. Salmon is seasoned with Trader Joe’s ajika (a Georgian spice blend) and we just roasted the broccoli. The standout is the mejadara. It’s spiced rice and lentils with fried onions and is popular throughout the Middle East. We used the recipe from Yotam Ottolenghi and Sami Tamimi’s cookbook, Jerusalem.

Post Photo
like

Additional Posts in Confession

Went to a funeral today, wife’s oldest friend 42 non smoker, non drinker, did yoga and was a vegetarian and probably the nicest person I have met… went back to the house husband wanted a drink opened a top shelf bottle cause why not? Sometimes the stuff we discuss here is so trivial but what I remembered today is open the good stuff, enjoy it with people you love and tell them you love them. Tomorrow is not guaranteed

likehelpfulsmart

Well...I've finally made it in my marriage when we are reading each other's minds.

likefunny

I wanna be distracted from .. whatever admin work I am doing now. How was everyone’s day?

like

After ~20-30 min on a call, I stop paying attention.

like

Confession: The only in-law that I had a great relationship with passed away unexpectedly. The two remaining in-laws were on thin ice with me prior due to years of drama, nagging, and disgusting display of wealth. I believe their demand of money and general assholish behavior drove in law to his death. I love my S.O. but I can’t deal with the drama anymore.

I want to have a family and a future that is drama-free and full of love and don’t want to surround myself with negativity.

like

I want to join a fitness class but I have been going to gym always instead. Any reasons to convince to join fitness class?

like

There’s a senior architect at my firm that’s absolutely toxic as heck but on Fridays, he becomes his alter ego. All like “Happy Friday!” and “you’re very welcome” and “hope you have a fantastic weekend!” No joke, he really is a different person.

likefunny

Anyone else buy a lunch box only to use shopping bags instead? I can’t be the only one. Lunchbox has been empty in my trunk for the last year. Used it maybe 3 times.

like

Confession is that I dislike when ppl say oh my “gosh”… just say omg. What’s wrong with that

like

My gf just got a peloton and now she is insufferable. “Peloton” this and “peloton” that. She even said “you can’t sit with me anymore because you don’t have a peloton”. She’s out of control!

funnylikeupliftingsmart

A squirrel just flashed me climbing my window 🥱

funnylikehelpful

I’m staying in tonight, plz tell me funny stories.🧐

likefunny

Is it wrong if i'm 6'4 and like small woman? I'm dating a 5'2 girl rn. But she is the cutest 😍. But my friends are super judgy about it :(.

likefunny

My sister might divorce with her husband, they have a baby of 1.5 year. We came from a divorce family and honestly never thought it would happen again - I feel powerless and I don’t know what to do. I feel bad for my sister but I am also mad at her (the fault is always in the middle) because they are not trying to fix it. I am also scared for the baby, I perfectly know what it means to grow up in a divorce family and as much as parents are present is not the same.

like

All of us want the same thing! Money- Flex Timing- Great Culture- Respect - Value in what we are doing!
We, the employees make an organization. If all of us want the same thing, how come the culture of that organization still remains the same! Why can’t we be the pioneer? Thoughts…

likeupliftingfunny

I tripped over my blanket and hit the floor so hard 🫠. My neighbors probably hate me. That’s my confession.

likefunny

It’s Fry Day!!!!!!!!!!!

Post Photo
likeupliftingfunny

A toxic co-worker tried to throw me under the bus to cover their mistake in a call with leadership 😢😢. I showed the proof of conversation the next moment without hesitation to everyone. Suddenly their tone changes and tries to divert the topic 😒😒. I am distraught 🙁🙁

likeupliftingfunny

Does anyone else go get a haircut when they’re bored? I’m pretty bored rn and I’m thinking about getting a trim. 35 for cut + wash + tips tho 🥹🥹. I cut it 5/30. Should I wait a bit longer? I keep my hair relatively medium length so I feel like I have to cut it every 1-2 months before my bangs pokes my eyes

like

where my canadians at? how strict is covid there? my friend is in toronto for work and the hotel found out he has covid. now they’re locking him in his room. is that legal? if so, what’s the protocol to break quarantine? hotel wouldn’t answer 🫠

likeuplifting

New to Fishbowl?

Download the Fishbowl app to
unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.
That was just a preview…
Sign Up to see all discussions
  • Discover what it’s like to work at companies from real professionals
  • Get candid advice from people in your field in a safe space
  • Chat and network with other professionals in your field
Sign up in seconds to unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.

Already a user?
Login here

Share

Embed this post

Copy and paste embed code on your site

Preview

Download the
Fishbowl app

See what’s happening in your industry
from the palm of your hand.

A phone with Fishbowl app

Scan your QR code to download
Fishbowl app on your mobile

Download app

Sign up for free to view this conversation on Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use and Privacy Policy

Already have an account? Log in

Sign up for free to continue using Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use(New) and Privacy Policy(New)
Messaging rates may apply

Already have an account? Log in

For account settings, visit Fishbowl on Desktop Browser or

General

Legal