What you should do when dealing with a very toxic worker that keep on sending passive aggressive messages to you as well as in group chat and email.
Things like when you answer his question he respond: I know that
Or when he keeps on saying my change requests were just minor in group meeting but actually not.
And keep on saying how hard he works when he clearly wasn’t and already underperformed compared to an intern level.

How to not let this toxic co-worker not poison me any further?

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You need to go to hr about this. Be honest with them..they have seen it all before.. you have been bullied. Try to make notes about each incident, no matter how trivial it sounds to you.

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I have a similar person in my team. I tried reporting them to their manager, but that didn't work well. Some people expend lot of energy in manipulating the team by showing best side to superiors and worst side to subordinates. I had one-one talk with this person, explaining how I think their behavior is affecting my work and received nasty feedback in return. Our interactions improved a bit after that 1-1 meeting, but didn't completely turn around. The worst part is now this person reports to me and I am in a very awkward position. Sorry I don't have an easy answer for you, but thought I will share my experience as well.

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Can you take it up with your manager? They should be able to address the issue in a more nuanced way. Chances are you aren’t the only one with the issue and if its effecting others that is undesirable.

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I have similar person on my team. Except he's the senior engineer. Refuses to do anything. It use to be tolerable when we had a large team that work can be assigned to others.

But now that our team has shrunken to basically a few people that I just assign it to myself and juggle coordinating and developing all the work that comes in just to avoid him for the past year. And dude still gives nasty feedback about me and my work behind my back, despite haven't done any code reviews with me nor gets involved in any projects. And sadly his words carry weight bc of title, even if it's baseless. Sometimes the only direction left is the exit.

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