What you should do when dealing with a very toxic worker that keep on sending passive aggressive messages to you as well as in group chat and email.
Things like when you answer his question he respond: I know that
Or when he keeps on saying my change requests were just minor in group meeting but actually not.
And keep on saying how hard he works when he clearly wasn’t and already underperformed compared to an intern level.

How to not let this toxic co-worker not poison me any further?

like
Posting as :
works at
You are currently posting as works at

You need to go to hr about this. Be honest with them..they have seen it all before.. you have been bullied. Try to make notes about each incident, no matter how trivial it sounds to you.

likesmart

I have a similar person in my team. I tried reporting them to their manager, but that didn't work well. Some people expend lot of energy in manipulating the team by showing best side to superiors and worst side to subordinates. I had one-one talk with this person, explaining how I think their behavior is affecting my work and received nasty feedback in return. Our interactions improved a bit after that 1-1 meeting, but didn't completely turn around. The worst part is now this person reports to me and I am in a very awkward position. Sorry I don't have an easy answer for you, but thought I will share my experience as well.

like

Can you take it up with your manager? They should be able to address the issue in a more nuanced way. Chances are you aren’t the only one with the issue and if its effecting others that is undesirable.

like

I have similar person on my team. Except he's the senior engineer. Refuses to do anything. It use to be tolerable when we had a large team that work can be assigned to others.

But now that our team has shrunken to basically a few people that I just assign it to myself and juggle coordinating and developing all the work that comes in just to avoid him for the past year. And dude still gives nasty feedback about me and my work behind my back, despite haven't done any code reviews with me nor gets involved in any projects. And sadly his words carry weight bc of title, even if it's baseless. Sometimes the only direction left is the exit.

like

Name the game. Call them out on it.

Related Posts

Any junior associate folk here who stood up to a partner who treated them like trash? As in actually told the partner that they are talking to you like you’re a piece of garbage (or something along those lines). If so, how did that work out for you?

like

Hi 👋. I posted here a few weeks ago about being nervous conducting a PIP conversation with my team member.
I did it this week and let me just say it was the weirdest conversation ever. The guy is usually argumentative and tries to disprove every bit of feedback. But this time he just sat there and asked no questions and said nothing.
Maybe he’s looking for new jobs already - don’t mind this at all and this would be a good outcome for him overall.

like

When and how do you push back on people senior to you? Fifth year dealing with supersenior associate (11th year) who completely lacks good judgment & common sense. One of those super smart but impractical types. As just one example, he recently called me to tell me to call someone who’s on vacation and ask them to send a calendar invite. I offered to send myself but apparently that wouldn’t work (presumably because it would be efficient & make sense.) At what point (and how) do I Just Say No?

like

Recently I’ve been in the enviable position of receiving several job offers from other firms and attorneys. I am currently employed and very happy at my current firm. What is the best way to politely decline these offers, both those made via phone and email, without burning any bridges?

like

What do you do when a store manager let's a cashier.walk all over the assistant manager? Dm isn't any help. I'm at my wits end! Store manager sticks up for cashier every single time. I've offered to give that cashier my keys . I'm so done with trying to do right, only to have manager make up excuses.

like

How many of you got in without ad school? How did it happen?

like

Fashion Q: what kinds of pants do you guys wear day-to-day? I know skinny jeans are considered “out,” but super baggy mom jeans are not flattering on my small frame. I wear leggings when I’m WFH, but I want to look slightly more put-together/fashionable outside my home

like

What is your firm's dress code (when working in the office)?

like

What’s your favorite WFH footwear? Any recommended brands for a chilly home office?

like

Can anyone at Intuit give me referral for SDE Intern role?
I have good hold on DSA

like

Is it okay to join a new team and say "I expect your Support to myself" when you know you're not joining as a lead to the team.??

Ladies, what heels / brands do you recommend for work? Looking for shoes I can walk around in (mostly) comfortably

like

Has anyone received negative feedback after a performance review cycle? I mean everything negative. I feel completely blindsided by my Director. Thinking of setting up a call to refute his feedback. Advice?

Is it a nice idea to be close to your employees?

like

Hello!
I’m a student majoring in Software Engineering. I’m starting my third year in a few months and have an internship where I’m learning more about working with an actual team on real-world projects. However, I feel like I need to do more to stand out and have a stronger software background. Anyone have any tips or suggestions for what I should do on my own time to strengthen my skills?

like

I am looking for a summer internship in consulting. Currently, I'm a 3rd year Economics and Stats student at U of T.
My target companies are KPMG and Accenture, and I really want to work in one of these two as they have the best workplace culture.
I'd appreciate if anyone could help me out with applications or share tips on how to get to the interview round, thanks!

like

I’m not from an English speaking country but I am watching a tv show and businessmen walk into a room and instead of greeting eachother, everyone says each person’s first name in lieu of hi, however in my experience working in the states, I haven’t seen anyone do this, it’s always hi or good afternoon or some other greeting first THEN they say their first name. is it also appropriate to omit the greeting?

like

How to tell if your boss likes you?

McKinsey & Company Hi, I am looking for a referral in McKinsey & Company for the position of graduate business analyst . I did my one year internship in Deloitte USI , just got converted Analyst (FTE) in march 2022. It would be very helpful.

like

Hello All! I m currently working in Amazon as transportation specialist for past 3 years. I have cleared CA-IPCC in 2014 and internship in 2017 but i never wrote CA-Final. Currently I m preparing for M.com so that i can write CPA next year as my CA is on hold. I want to study softwate certification courses like SAP. Please suggest me which one i should consider

More Posts

Killer freelance gig just came my way, but I can’t take it. I want to send some great talent their way - experienced (5+ yrs at least) preferred. See below...

likeupliftinghelpful
like

Do you use a tax preparer? How do you find a good one? Do they need to be local?

like

How do people feel about VGAC going for the 23 and me merger? Shares are about $10 now and I’m thinking I might buy in and see where it goes. Thoughts?

like
like

One thing that COVID-19 has taught you?

like

Does anyone know someone who has been fired from their firm for political activism? Please state why and the context.

like

How much CTC and in-hand salary is offered to Software/Graduate Analyst at Investment Banks like Goldman Sachs ,Deutsche Bank ,JPMorgan Chase in India?

Moved to the GTA last year from Vancouver; and we have a BIG raccoon issue here. It’s pissing me off. Raccoons keep taking a dump on my porch. Tried everything to deter them away but been unsuccessful

funny

Hi Fishes,

Is
Nagarro the only service based company which pays really well...means at par with product based companies? Nagarro

Hi All, How many days do I need to wait to receive offer letter from @ Wells Fargo. I have submitted all required documents. How can I know the status?

like

hi fishes,

any idea on senior anslyst enterprise procurement level 3 package? i have 2nd round tomorrow any advise? Thanks in advance 😊

What do you wish you had known before becoming a manager?

like

I have been an assistant manager at a retail store for a year and a half. This chain has about 60 stores. I get paid hourly. What is a fair hourly wage for an assistant manager position ima store of this caliber?

like

S&P Global What are the Job Levels S&P Global Market Intelligence

like

Who’s planning on leaving after getting their bonus?

like

Hello! What is the best way to structure a discovery call for SaaS sales? e.g. share a deck, only focus on their use case (current state, goals, pain, etc.), share a story, etc. Lastly, how do you go further than surface level, like if they mention they are having issues with xyz, which is usually a symptom of the problem and not the problem itself. Any info would be appreciated, thanks.

like

What are the chances of me getting unemployment after quitting? I left for solid reasons that went unaddressed for months so will that have any impact on my eligibility?

What are some myths you all have heard to figure out if you’re having a boy or girl?

like

Additional Posts in Jobs in STEM

Any young professionals consider moving to Middle East for work?
Curious if I would be considered since they usually want a lot of experience. I'm a mechanical eng with about 5 YOE.

likeupliftingsmart

How many people here wants to switch job, but can’t due to current market scenario or GC process ?

Comment 1 for current market scenario.
Comment 2 for GC process.

like

What is a good salary for a physicist with PhD and 5 years of post PhD work experience in Europe? Semiconductor industry, R&D roles, KLA, Applied materials.... Etc.

like

How do you make the most money in STEM? Is it about having a degree, prior experience and getting in touch with people? What’s your *success secret* and how does it relate to what you’re currently doing? Maybe you think business owners have the highest potential to make the most? Process engineer at an industrial facility in Goodyear, Arizona

like

What are some red flags you've noticed in the hiring process? I've finally landed an interview after weeks of applying. I think it went well on my end, but something about the managers I spoke with just feels...off.

like

If anyone is hiring in Canada please kindly give my partner a chance. The wait, dilemma and uncertainty is taking a very big toll from us.
-He got almost 5 years of project management, bid management and proposal management experience for a construction consultant company.
-He got experience in Primavera, got excellent statistical analysis skill, can use python for constructing ML models,
- He is proficient in RFP,RFI,RFQ for construction projects as he got BSc in Civil Engineering and MBA. 🙏🙏

like

Hey all! I am currently a student in my final year of complete a Computer Science undergrad degree and am currently looking applying to remote college graduate positions in software engineering/development. Does anyone have any advice for landing a position (or a position they could help me land <3)?

Post Photo
funnylike
like

Hello, I'm a final year MASc in Mechanical Engineering (research based MS) student. I'm looking for Full-Time Associate Scientist (R&D) positions in Product/Material development and/or Process Engineer II roles in FMCG and other manufacturing firms in US/Canada/EU and Asia Pacific. I appreciate any feedback on my resume and am also looking to connect with individuals for coffee chats.

Thanks!

Post Photo
likeuplifting

I am a Mechanical Engineer currently in Structural Analysis domain for 2 years and Want to change my domain to Data Engineering or Big Data Developer. What should be my approach and ideally how long would it take to get into this industry ?

likesmart

Waiting to see if I get an L7 EM role at Google. Should I move from Amazon to Google in the economy? And to be clear it would be a level and pay increase from L6 SDM at Amazon unless Google downlevels me.Google Amazon

like

Deloitte folks, I need help. I saw a job posting for life science strategy manager. This would be a lane change from my current role as clinical manager. I have a PhD in biology and would love to break into consulting. But not sure how.

like

I’m an Environmental Protection Specialist and make pretty good money for what I do. I just feel like I have more to offer than being a worker bee in a system at 25. I work with a lot of retirees and would love to return in my latter professional years. I have my Bachelors in Applied Coastal Environmental Science and want to expand my options. Any suggestions that won’t require me taking a crazy pay cut? I’m pretty much open to anything.

like

Been 2 weeks since the final interview...and nothing has happened yet, not even a reference check. Is it a bad sign? Bay Area

like

Hi, I was curious if anyone had any jobs or companies that had a position with a mix of consulting/healthcare/pharmaceutical. I currently work in clinical operations and research, and would love to jump or learn into a tech side company with pharmaceutical exposure. Not sure if these are out there but figured I’d see!

like

If you are a experienced CAD drafter with experience in environmental remediation, we’re hiring. I’d be happy to discuss the opportunity

Hey does anyone know how to best prep for the Accenture Industry X Anaylsty

Showcase
Scenario
and Strenght Based Interviews.

Thank you

like

Hi Everyone, I am trying to apply for a Technical Support role at Dropbox I’m entering all the required fields but there seems to be an issue, when I hit submit after filling the form, it doesn’t submit and throws error ‘Looks like you left this blank! Please fill out this required field’ when all the fields are entered already (I have checked so many times, and filled the form from scratch several times too). Anyone from Dropbox who can put me in touch with HR or suggest what I should do next?

Does anyone else here have a career in academia? Is the salary worth it?

I recently interviewed for L7 EM at Google and had 4 great interviews and one not so great system design. I submitted external referrals all of which gave great feedback. The recruiter said the next step is team match/interviews and then the HC. Anyone in a similar situation? What was the result? Google

New to Fishbowl?

Download the Fishbowl app to
unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.
That was just a preview…
Sign Up to see all discussions
  • Discover what it’s like to work at companies from real professionals
  • Get candid advice from people in your field in a safe space
  • Chat and network with other professionals in your field
Sign up in seconds to unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.

Already a user?
Login here

Share

Embed this post

Copy and paste embed code on your site

Preview

Download the
Fishbowl app

See what’s happening in your industry
from the palm of your hand.

A phone with Fishbowl app

Scan your QR code to download
Fishbowl app on your mobile

Download app

Sign up for free to view this conversation on Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use and Privacy Policy

Already have an account? Log in

Sign up for free to continue using Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use(New) and Privacy Policy(New)
Messaging rates may apply

Already have an account? Log in

For account settings, visit Fishbowl on Desktop Browser or

General

Legal