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It’s well known there are more men than women on dating apps like Bumble, Tinder, Hinge, etc. The specific ratio depends on each app. Women, especially the most attractive women, get a lot of swipes. More swipes than they can handle at any given time. As such, they limit their efforts to the best/most attractive guys. Meanwhile, the men are more likely to run into the challenge of who they use their limited number of swipes on. As such, they use their swipes on the best/most attractive women. That also means that normal/ordinary women receive some, but not a lot of swipes. Dating apps aren’t great for most men and women, but a lot of us are so busy with work and other commitments that it’s hard to find time for dating, especially without coming across as being creepy
There are some good videos out there around this. Men also have it bad in that women overestimate their own attractiveness and aim exclusively outside of their league. Think a 4 or 5 settling for no less than an 8.5, which they have zero chance with, which pretty much makes the apps worthless to all but the most attractive males.
… I believe there are many more men on those than women. Women get inundated with messages, and don’t have time to respond to anything approaching close to all messages. Sure, most of those are of the “You’re cute let’s do it” variety, or unsolicited pics, and it’s annoying. But messages from normal guys like me (reasonably OK-looking, decent, somewhat eloquent, etc.) simply get lost in the barrage. So, most men have a pretty dismal response rate. It sucks and it’s easy for us to lose courage. I get tired of reading the “Where are the normal guys?” questions in profiles. We’re right here! Those same people asking those questions, don’t respond when we send them messages. And I’m never bitter or annoyed in my messages, even if the receiver is one of those asking the question.
59 M, btw. With all my hair and very few grays. 😂 Adding that so you don’t assume my low response rate is because I’m some weirdo, troll-looking, inarticulate git.
As a female I can relate and feel for the "normal" men lost in this void. I'd suggest making unique efforts (words matter too) that set you apart. Try an app that has a call feature? If you are trying to bypass the matching, use the "direct" features that get you to a dm or a paid feature to express a wow factor. Sorry if these seem obvious, but I've always been able to gravitate towards those who have unique profiles, efforts and/or greetings. Some guys talk as if they're interviewing and nothing irks us more than the cliché questions. Unfortunately for me, my prospect pool is smaller (due to being a South Asian Muslim American) and I'm only considering "husband applications so can only speak on behalf the serious bit I've seen and spoken with.