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Received an offer as Engagement Director from Salesforce (CSG, pre sales, L9). Great benefits package, 40% increase in total comp and better WLB.
I do love the people in my practice and current client, but career trajectory has stalled after taking parental leave earlier this year and (yet another) change in leadership.
Realistically, making to Director is 2-3 years away and will require sacrificing time with my family that I am not prepared to give up.
Should I stay or should I go?
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What in the world is happening with these responses? Share your baby pics on Instagram if you want. I get others might get upset but if they do it's on them. You cannot keep curating your life and joy because others might not be in a spot where they can celebrate and enjoy with you. Personally I share select few pics on Instagram but for really really close friends and family I use apps like tinybeans which allows me to upload all the pics that I want, datestamp it so it keeps a record that will send you cute reminders over the months and years and allow the close friends and family to interact with it as needed. Check it out.
Interesting how all of the 'no don't' camp are projecting their lack of interest in kids vs what OP actually asked and is concerned about
I'm someone who absolutely doesn't want kids, but I'm still happy to celebrate and take interest in my friends' lives if that includes kids.
Maybe my friends do show restraint and don't over celebrate their kids, making it ok. I could see how certain types of people posting would be annoying, but they were annoying prior to kids and are probably not people in friends with
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A good rule of thumb about kids is that nobody outside your family wants to see pictures of them unless they ask you specifically.
Your and MD1s argument is that you shouldn’t post any pictures of your kids to social media because no one cares about your kids. I would believe that if you had no friends or were insufferable, like MD1, that indeed no one wants to see your kids.
But most people have people in their lives who know and love you and your kids. And you probably have friends who use social to keep up with you and family as well.
Telling people no one cares about your kids is simply cruel and asinine. I’m sure even MD1 has at least one person that cares about their kids.
Also, that premise relies on that fact that you post purely for others interests. Which is also false for many. Part of social media is sharing photos at a point in time to keep a diary to look back on when your kids are grown. Or simply because you want to.
Would you say that to someone’s face? Probably not. So don’t say it at all.
Share. They can unfollow you if they are finding it difficult to see your updates.
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Share. It’s your Instagram.
I wouldn’t share my kids photos on the internet. Creeps can get access and do what they want to them 😳
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Yeah I would unfollow you instantly actually
You should not care about others
However, you should think twice as to whether you want to put your kid online - many people chose to not show their face etc
Rising Star
This is a huge life milestone and you have every right to celebrate it. Just make sure it’s about you and your family and not blanket statements about the purpose it adds to a women’s life, etc.
Maybe if a friend just had a miscarriage, don’t throw a big party in her face but you shouldn’t feel guilty celebrating the happy things in your life!
You having a child does not affect those who are childless. They would be childless either way. If they have a problem with you sharing details of your personal life on your personal Instagram, they are the ones with underlying issues and should seek therapy. Express yourself how you see appropriate and derive joy from.
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If people are offended that you are happy and have a happy family then they’re not someone you want in your life.
I don’t have children and ultimately the fertility treatment we used didn’t work out. I’m happy for people it did work for or who had kids au naturale.
Your child can’t consent to that but it’s their life and identity you are posting online. We share photos privately with family who matter to us - otherwise our child is not going to be a product for MZ. They can choose when they are of age what to share or not share.
I don’t share because people are sick and CSAM is horrific. They literally use photos of newborns modeling clothing on Etsy. I never share photos or videos of my son in a diaper except to my grandmother who knows not to forward.
I struggled with infertility but never felt negatively when others posted about their pregnancies or kids. Post what brings you joy! And congrats!