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I swear I just opened the app to post the same question!! I live alone with my young toddler and even though my salary is good, I always feel I am drowning!!!! I pay daycare and the occasional baby sitter but luckily I leave the office at 5pm so I can pick him up most of the time and save on baby sitting hours. But jeeeeez how hard is it??!!
We have a two income household but my husband doesn’t make that much. We live in NYC so I still feel like I’m financially single and barely making ends meet some weeks. It gets tough.
Definitely not in a healthy way. Constantly drowning at both ends (at home, at work). I love love love my job but seriously considering changing fields after 6 years of trying to balance 2 kids in under a 100k in LA 😅. I think what has helped a bit is a shift in thinking that I need to go above and beyond at work to prove my worth. In the bigger scheme of things, it just doesn’t matter. It was very hard because I’m super career oriented and wouldn’t know what to do with myself without that identity. But after constantly comparing myself to others I’ve come to realize that while I may have a ton to learn, I’m still better at my job than many (MANY) others simply because I’m conscious of being judged as a parent who won’t deliver at work. So I’ve started cutting myself some slack there. Mentally, that’s helped me feel less anxious, and given me more space to focus on the fun bits of mothering kids, vs. the crushing responsibilities at both.
*at both ends