Thoughts on "work" husbands or wives? Totally cool to have someone who cares and supports you in the office or is it "disrespectful" to your partner at home?

likeupliftingfunny
Posting as :
works at
You are currently posting as works at
Highlighted IconHIGHLIGHTED

Nothing wrong with someone caring/supporting you, but if it's at the point of people using the "work husband/wife" term for it, it has probably gone a bit farther than it should have.

like

Anyone that uses that term is strange

likesmartfunny
Recent IconRecent

It’s cringe and sus

like

No work husband or wife. Wtf
Just share your day people with the person you married.

like

I put it in the same boat as "all my best friends are guys...". Just a bad vibe all around.

likefunnysmart

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Can you have a work side chick too?

funnylike

Only acceptable for single coworkers in my opinion— having support is one thing but claiming a spouse is different.

likefunny

Weird. Never understood why you need a spouse at your place of work, just have a friend and remove the flirting element if you respect your partner

like

Don’t see anything wrong with it unless there’s insecurity in your marriage. I’ve been married for 10 years and I have a work wife and me and her husband are really great friends now. As long as you are respectful it’s no concerns.

likefunny

I agree.

It’s a shame it is so hard to for men and women to be friends as adults unless there is a hint they might hook up.

likesmart

A spouse is a lot more than a friend. A good marriage contains emotional and physical intimacy. If you are calling someone your work husband or wife you are implying very significant intimacy beyond simply friendship.

likesmart

I think you have deeper mental issues if you use that

likesmart

@Accountant1 Yeah, the whole "You're just insecure" trope is just people deflecting and getting upset when others call them out. That's it. 😂

like

It's a term I first heard 40 years ago. If the actual spouse is ok with it, I don't see an issue. It really just means a work BFF that's of the opposite sex, most likely (hey, it's a new world, anything is possible). And honestly, if the actual spouse thinks there's reason to be concerned, the couple has deeper issues of trust.

likefunny

Trusting your spouse doesn't extend to anyone else. You can trust your spouse and still take issue with the other person unless that kind of thing turns you on.

I think when coworkers work wife/husband you it’s out of your control but people who would say I have a work husband I literally do not see it that way he’s my brother. So I think people who say my work spouse is weird and definitely means if you had the opportunity to cheat I think they would take it.

like

My brother literally left his real wife for his work wife.

likefunny

Oh well

Are there also “work adult children”?

like

I have heard people refer to others as their work mom or dad so I suppose!

like

Cheating

like

I have 2 work husbands that vy for my attention. My real husband doesn’t mind (doesn’t really know).

helpful

Ew. People like this need a lot more attention than is healthy. There is ONE spouse. To even joke about it is kind of gross honestly. Sounds like you’re more their mommy (and that’s weird too). You’re there to work and be professional.

like

I think it's a strange way to word things. I have always had male friends at work, and not ONCE have they been referred to as a "work husband."
Years ago, my live-in boyfriend told me who my "replacement" at his new work was... WTF?!

like

Work spouse is weird. Colleagues can be supportive.

smart

Interesting. I trust my husband. It’s nice for him to have a support person that can relate to the specific situation. Male or female is irrelevant to me.

like

Related Posts

Figured this is the best place for this Ancestry conversation: https://joinfishbowl.com/post_00jlpi

Rather than fume about the usual, let’s try this: imagine the brief and what you’d have done differently if you were in the room

like

Hi BAL has submitted my H1B on 04/24 and yet to receive the receipt number. How soon the attorney will update the receipt number?

like

Any tips for someone trying to pivot into product management from Property Management ?

like

Is this group really gonna be mostly apartment listings?

like

Hi fishers, Has anyone bought a new vehicle and registered it under BH series of RTO? If yes, then what all documents do we need from our HR/Company?

like

What is the comp range for Deloitte Human Capital (in federal) at the Consultant level (after being promoted from analyst)?

like

Talking to a recruiter from Oliver Wyman today for an engagement manager role, modernization strategy (fin services). I have 10+ years of experience in this space including management consulting and industry experience. Folks at OW, what should be my target base for this role?

like

I just came here to vent. Had an interview, I thought it went great. At the end of the interview hiring managers said and I quote “ you set the bar real high” today I received a thank you but no thank you email.
I am so frustrated …

Anyone know what full-time remote project manager salaries are, for those who work in healthcare? How do you get into something like that? I’m currently in my mid 20’s and manage ambulatory medical clinics, after previously managing nursing homes, with my bachelors in healthcare Administration but am honestly getting burnt out in my current role.

like

Hi,
Tipically in
Amazon (UE) are there bonus for sales positions? I mean personal bonus related to sales target Amazon

like

I work in commercial real estate retail leasing. Current employer just increased base to $100k with avg. 20-35% bonus/commissions combined. Received offer to exclusively work for a tenant and help them open new locations. $115k base 10% bonus & also stock options. Remote work, lots of driving, similar job title. Its a VC funded startup & aggressively growing. I’ve never worked for a start up, so curious what everyone’s experiences are and any feedback would be super appreciated thank you!!

like

What sort of equity stakes do management teams at PE-backed companies typically get?

like

I am a senior analyst with 5+ years of functional experience in health payer, 1.5 years of BA experience. Thinking about exit opportunities and deciding if it's worth pivoting into the pharmaceutical industry, startups, and or straight into a payer company. Thoughts if I should wait or exit?

like

Something to brighten your day 🤗
I was listening to a Mufti Menk lecture yesterday on this topic. Surah Nashra is also about burdens we bear. Within this Surah,Allah SWT speaks about how He is the one that granted the cure, purity, and strength after the backs were about to break. Allah SWT takes us to this point to refine us. We never know our capabilities until we are tested and challenged. This is when we realize we can do it and we can get through it 🫶🏻! IA you got this 🫶🏻!

Post Photo
likeuplifting

How many pro-bono hours do you bill each year?

Does your firm's bonus structure actually take into account pro-bono hours, or do they just say that without meaning it?

#probono

like

What is your engineering field and how do you see it changing over the next 5 years?

like

Crowe is hiring for quite a few positions across the US (Internal Audit, IT controls and cyber/digital security, Compliance,etc)… I’m a manager and would think some of these niche areas have great opportunity for new folks to excel rather quickly. Great flexibility and mobility policies. I’d be happy to chat if interested and get you directly in touch with the right people internally.

likefunny

I have been working in SEA region last 4 years. I feel burned out. I have 10yoe, I have try to move to other country but I pretty much suck in LeetCode. I want to take some time off to unwind, finish some personal business, and really prepare for interviews. I would like to hear from you. Should I quit to my current manager(5th so far) or wait after mid year performance review, when a new boss will take over my team? I'm thinking on giving them 2 months notice period. By contract is 1.

Thanks

like

Currently in a project finance and looking to breaking into tech/fintech. Any advice on how to pivot?

like

Hi all, need some advice here, like a lot of others here, Google is definitely a dream company for me to work at. I come from a non-technical background, currently working as a project manager + associate product manager (20% project situation) at a SaaS company. I would really appreciate the input on my chances for a Program manager/ associate product manager role. Also, what are some of the key skills that are utilized extensively in these roles, which google considers a great asset?

like

Additional Posts in Accounting

What are some good investing books you'd recommend?

like

If I'm forced to use my vacation, floater, etc. towards my study leave for CFE but I have vacation booked for right after CFE, will PwC still let me take that vacation as a "leave of absence"?

like

When is the best time to leave and go to another big4? I am at PwC and I knew the reputation they had and Some people said It may not be for me because of it. Ive been here a year and I feel as there right. My busy season is starting and I want to leave (not just because of my team) but as some of you may know getting along with the people you work with is a big part of wanting to stay at your job. I want to try to quit end of December and hoping to start a new position February.

like

FAANG is now MAMAA (Meta, Apple, Microsoft, Amazon and Alphabet)…Whoa Mama! As if there weren’t enough acronyms in our lives. Happy Friday All!!!

funnylike

Hey can anyone shed light on the Technical Accounting Consulting group at RSM compared to Big 4 (EY FAAS) with regards to work life balance / middle market client demands / flexibility?

likehelpful

How do I work 55-60 hour weeks and have 50 percent utilization?

like

True or false?

Post Photo
likefunny

Are all Big 4 firms equally tone deaf, or is it just EY? I feel like they don’t address the fact that people are leaving in droves and the ones left behind are burnt out - we continue to have these big growth targets, but fewer and fewer people to actually do the work.

like

Are private companies easier to work at than public companies in accounting? We have such an accelerated close deadline at the publicly traded company I’m at now, I really hate the inflexible tight deadlines and analysis seems to drag on forever after that. We also close AP/AR very early in the month yet that doesn’t stop payments/receipts from happening so we’re constantly adjusting our accruals until the end of month. Do private companies start their close after the month actually ends?

like

There's a ton of self help and leadership books out there to help people in their careers. If there was one that was written front the lense of a public accounting, would you read it?

likehelpful

26 y/o JD, CPA, CFP --- what are my odds landing a career with the FBI?

like

Anyone hear talks of layoffs in Advisory? I know my office is laying off Assurance and BTS (Tax) staff but haven't heard much of Advisory yet.

like

I always bill 100% of my time and for my entire career in public accounting I have never heard anything negative until recently.. I was told to watch my time as the client doesn’t like to pay these fees, and the partner is unhappy because it looks like I have high hours. Is the message that I should eat my time? Or is it that They think I’m inefficient?

likefunny

Dumb questions but genuinely curious:

1) Let’s say you’re a recent undergrad candidate with no internships on your resume. What’s the deciding factor that you’re qualified for Advisory vs Tax vs Audit? Is it school, gpa, etc.?

2) Why can’t you switch from Tax to another SL without having to pull strings? I understand that there’s a difference in tax vs book experience but why does the Accounting field gatekeep other SLs? It’s not like we’re incapable of learning other areas.

like

One of my senior managers is a boomerang and told me she was laid off when she was 7 months pregnant about 10 years ago. I think she was a senior or manager. She was in a specific group and everybody was laid off. It wasn’t performance based.

Would you work at your company again if you were laid off?

like

Don't look for your happiness in a job or a career. You will always be chasing it. What makes you happy?

like

What level do I need to be before I can block off time in my calendar to watch the Champions League with impunity?

like

Boomerangs, did you guys come back to a different firm and/or group after your industry detour? How hard was it?

like

How much does a big 4 marketing director make in the Bay Area?

like

What is Big4 NYC Audit salary and bonus for Manager 2?

like

New to Fishbowl?

Download the Fishbowl app to
unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.
That was just a preview…
Sign Up to see all discussions
  • Discover what it’s like to work at companies from real professionals
  • Get candid advice from people in your field in a safe space
  • Chat and network with other professionals in your field
Sign up in seconds to unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.

Already a user?
Login here

Share

Embed this post

Copy and paste embed code on your site

Preview

Download the
Fishbowl app

See what’s happening in your industry
from the palm of your hand.

A phone with Fishbowl app

Scan your QR code to download
Fishbowl app on your mobile

Download app

Sign up for free to view this conversation on Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use and Privacy Policy

Already have an account? Log in

Sign up for free to continue using Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use(New) and Privacy Policy(New)
Messaging rates may apply

Already have an account? Log in

For account settings, visit Fishbowl on Desktop Browser or

General

Legal