Thoughts on "work" husbands or wives? Totally cool to have someone who cares and supports you in the office or is it "disrespectful" to your partner at home?

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Nothing wrong with someone caring/supporting you, but if it's at the point of people using the "work husband/wife" term for it, it has probably gone a bit farther than it should have.

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Anyone that uses that term is strange

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It’s cringe and sus

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No work husband or wife. Wtf
Just share your day people with the person you married.

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I put it in the same boat as "all my best friends are guys...". Just a bad vibe all around.

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Can you have a work side chick too?

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Only acceptable for single coworkers in my opinion— having support is one thing but claiming a spouse is different.

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Weird. Never understood why you need a spouse at your place of work, just have a friend and remove the flirting element if you respect your partner

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Don’t see anything wrong with it unless there’s insecurity in your marriage. I’ve been married for 10 years and I have a work wife and me and her husband are really great friends now. As long as you are respectful it’s no concerns.

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I agree.

It’s a shame it is so hard to for men and women to be friends as adults unless there is a hint they might hook up.

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A spouse is a lot more than a friend. A good marriage contains emotional and physical intimacy. If you are calling someone your work husband or wife you are implying very significant intimacy beyond simply friendship.

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I think you have deeper mental issues if you use that

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@Accountant1 Yeah, the whole "You're just insecure" trope is just people deflecting and getting upset when others call them out. That's it. 😂

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It's a term I first heard 40 years ago. If the actual spouse is ok with it, I don't see an issue. It really just means a work BFF that's of the opposite sex, most likely (hey, it's a new world, anything is possible). And honestly, if the actual spouse thinks there's reason to be concerned, the couple has deeper issues of trust.

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Trusting your spouse doesn't extend to anyone else. You can trust your spouse and still take issue with the other person unless that kind of thing turns you on.

I think when coworkers work wife/husband you it’s out of your control but people who would say I have a work husband I literally do not see it that way he’s my brother. So I think people who say my work spouse is weird and definitely means if you had the opportunity to cheat I think they would take it.

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My brother literally left his real wife for his work wife.

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Oh well

Are there also “work adult children”?

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I have heard people refer to others as their work mom or dad so I suppose!

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Cheating

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I have 2 work husbands that vy for my attention. My real husband doesn’t mind (doesn’t really know).

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Ew. People like this need a lot more attention than is healthy. There is ONE spouse. To even joke about it is kind of gross honestly. Sounds like you’re more their mommy (and that’s weird too). You’re there to work and be professional.

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I think it's a strange way to word things. I have always had male friends at work, and not ONCE have they been referred to as a "work husband."
Years ago, my live-in boyfriend told me who my "replacement" at his new work was... WTF?!

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Work spouse is weird. Colleagues can be supportive.

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Interesting. I trust my husband. It’s nice for him to have a support person that can relate to the specific situation. Male or female is irrelevant to me.

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