Vaginal delivery or elective C-section?
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These are such vastly different options that you’re going to need to probably identify what about each is appealing to you or not. Personally, the more times I deliver vaginally and maintain intact ab muscles the more C sections terrify me.
I thought I wanted a C-section because I’m scared of vaginal delivery, but my mom who’s had both told me I was wrong — that the recovery for C-sections is so hard that she wouldn’t do it on purpose, and I’ve read that if you want another kid a C-section carries some risk of complications in subsequent pregnancies, so I’m going to try for vaginal delivery even though I’m still scared
I was deathly scared as well but with the epidural and a great team of midwives nurses it wasn’t too bad - you don’t feel the pain during childbirth and they coach you on when to push
I had an emergency c-section so I can’t imagine why someone would want one by choice
I’ve had both and would never wish anyone to have a c-section. The recovery was brutal
I had as bad a vaginal birth as you can have. Will probably need multiple surgeries over the next few years to recover. I am also an older mom - had my baby at 39. If I could do it over again I would choose a planned c section. The best birth is an uneventful vaginal birth. It can happen but as you get older I think the chance gets lower. Next is a planned c section, then emergency, but the worst is a really bad vaginal birth. I’m so lucky nothing is wrong with my baby but I’ve missed so much with her due to my health. I didn’t pick her up for the first 7 weeks. I still struggle a year later to complete a full grocery trip. I always imagined taking my baby on walks. All my friends with c sections walked so soon after birth and I still haven’t got to the place they were at within weeks of birth. The main reason not to do a c section is if you want a large family as the risk of repeat c sections increases each time but at our age we’re likely only having one or two. Even though the risk of a bad vaginal birth is low it isn’t that low and it is not worth it!
Nope! Had a great pregnancy with no risk factors other than age. My baby was 7.5 lbs which was what they were measuring her at beforehand.
I had an emergency c section but realistically things to consider:
-you lose all core muscle / strength and cannot get up out of bed without help. It is very difficult to sit up to feed your baby without a supportive pillow behind you or assistance in the side of the bed
-very difficult to do stairs
-very difficult to stand up straight for a few days, I needed a chair in the shower
-I could not bend enough to put my baby down in her crib, I also could not bend over easily for changing the baby so husband did this for me for the first week
-I am 8 weeks pp and still sore even though I am healed and “did incredibly well”. It is not an easy recovery by any means
-you milk may be delayed at first as opposed to vaginal. Didn’t happen to me but have heard from doctors
-once you have a C-section you likely will continue to have them and recommended no more than 3-4 csections. Something to consider for family planning
I had the joy of 18 hours of labor before my C-section and I found contractions every 6 minutes much less painful than the first week of my recovery from C-section.
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I wouldn't wish an induction on anyone. I wanted a vaginal delivery, but at 41 + 1, I had an induction. Ultimately, I had a C-section. I would have much rather skipped the 36 hour induction without food (but broth and jello), laboring for 4 hours and went right to the c-section or waited for natural labor longer.
Breech so scheduled C. After hearing stories of labour from my birthing class comrades, I’m glad I didn’t have a choice.
My motto is never elective anything. Natural processes are best unless there’s some health concern.
I wanted a c section but ended up having vaginal after baby was 5w early. It happened so fast that I couldn’t even get an epidural. I’m torn on what I would do next time- although the recovery was great the pain was horrific and there’s risk of worse tearing (if baby had been full term I’m sure I would have had more than a 2nd degree tear). Downside of vaginal is you use it for everything so things like sex is painful for quite a while after. I might consider elective c section
I was adamant I wanted a c-section. 2 vaginal deliveries later and I’m so glad I didn’t. Unless you have some outstanding risks involved, all stories I’ve heard the recovery is so much easier for vaginal delivery.
For the pain - get the epidural.
I know too many people that ended up with c-sections that still have pain because of it, even if it was seemingly easier at the time.
Apparently i can elect either as i am 40 with my first child. Doc told me baby is well positioned for vaginal but due to my age i qualify for elective c-section
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I mean, it will be fine either way. It will definitely be harder in terms of recovery, but it’s not impossible.
I’m going to be the lone voice here, but I had a planned c-section due to my daughter being breach and it was wonderful. I knew exactly when I was going to have her and never felt a single contraction. She was out within 10 minutes and because I had a QL block, my recovery was easier than any of my friends’ vaginal births. Seriously, other mom friends visited me in the hospital and could not believe how easily and quickly I was moving around. I would ask your doctor if they do QL blocks (some don’t) and if they do, I would jump at the planned option.
I didn’t have a planned c section in the end (though I wanted one!) and I wanted to add that people who compare c section vs vaginal inevitably hear the unplanned c section stories which are often generally traumatic (mentally and physically) - every planned c section story I heard was a different story. So it’s worth asking those who have had a planned one too!
I also had a planned c section due to breech. I was so scared - throughout my pregnancy I feared a c section because of what it would do to my core, body, self esteem, and of course the recovery. Overall, it’s been okay for me (8 weeks post). Everyone is different. I did Pilates, PT, acupuncture, chiropractic, and daily walking until delivery. I believe all of that really helped my body “handle” this surgery. I also went on short, slow walks at 8 or days post. I will say/ the ability to bend, sit up straight etc is still hard. And my body looks foreign to me, but I hope to start Pilates again to regain strength and confidence
I had a scheduled c-section with my first as he was breech. I was mentally prepared for it, in decent shape, no pregnancy complications.
However, for #2, I'm planning on a VBAC because of how difficult my c-section recovery was. I couldn't get out of bed unassisted for days, first 2 weeks were an extreme struggle, and took 6 weeks before I felt semi functional again. My husband had to jump up and hand me the baby/ put him back even though the bassinet was right next to my bed those first few days.
2 years postpartum and I agree with others, abdomen healed well, but it's not the same. I was back to my prepregnancy weight no problem, but I have the "pooch" that's common, despite efforts to correct.
Assuming this one isn't breech too, doctor is comfortable in letting me go to 41 weeks. At that time, I'll have another scheduled c-section, because (apparently) they won't induce you for a VBAC.