Why is screaming at associates still considered a valid management style in 2026? I watched a partner berate a first-year until they were shaking, and everyone else just kept typing like nothing was happening. It’s this weird culture of silence where we accept abusive behavior as long as the person doing it brings in the big clients. If this happened in any other industry, there would be a lawsuit, but here, it’s just called having a high-intensity personality.

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You can leave. You can sue for hostile work environment, but good luck getting another job. Change has to come from within.

But what do you mean by “berate”? Because my generation and yours have very different definitions.

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True.

The firm makes a conscious or subconscious choice that the money the screamer brings in is worth more to them the feelings of associates who are being screamed at. That is the reality. Every single time this happens with no consequences, the firm is telling you and everyone else there that the money this jerk brings to the firm is more important than you or your feelings. That is their business decision and it is probably a very good economic decision in the short term and probably long term to be honest.

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Uk lawyer here.Our regulator would investigate this totally unacceptable.I would hope this has gone in the UK legal sector now.Nobody is above acting as the profession requires with utmost integrity.It also makes zero business sense long and short term
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And it’s counterproductive from a business perspective. Anyone with self esteem will be less motivated to work after being on the receiving end of that and turnover is expensive. Those at the top would be wiser to only hire and keep managers with common sense, social skills, solid character, good communication skills, and class/manners - especially in positions that attract emotionally immature, big egos

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Agreed.

I just a position for this reason. There were no consequences, I was gaslit and the bully enabled. Mind boggling. I think im finished in the legal field!

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Same here, I’m fed up with the toxic environment, it’s ridiculous how toxic can be.

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Everyone else just kept typing. I suppose that means you spoke up? Or you also just observed?

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It’s not acceptable. Not even in “big law” by the producers/originators. Yes, it happens too often in law firms of all shapes and sizes. Producers also need ppl to work on their clients to make $$ and service clients best interests
Options-yes, you could find a different firm but talk candidly to associates about it bf considering-ignore the mgr who constantly preach culture and management style esp on LinkedIn as if you are good and good culture-it’s known//you don’t have to tell the world 🙄 you’re not convincing us

Stay-befriend another partner of a similar level who will speak up and has a different management style

But wherever-don’t give the bully power-be strong, react in private, if it is another young atty, realize their is sometimes more to the situation, If you, excuse yourself if you are gonna lose it,
Evaluate if you made a mistake and talk with someone you trust

Watch the Scrubs re-boot :)

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Screaming at associates also affects staff and causes a high turnover rate. So the firm should be asking itself if it’s with the money the bully brings in. I worked at a firm that fired its bully partners it made to office atmosphere much better.

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I worked for a firm that loved the drama of office politics. It was literally at times very draining and exhausting to work there, sometimes I would get so sick eating was not an option.
But on the flip side of it everyone took care of everyone. It was a different experience than I have ever had. A lot of spinning 😵‍💫, I guess. There wasn’t a revolving door in employment either. It was just a weird setting. Very weird.

A good "brand" and bringing in $ entitles certain partners to burn through associates and other employees like trash. I know one who burns through 2-4 attorneys/counsel every single year and is never disciplined or held to account. In fact, they keep feeding her associates and staff, even though she is so bad I saw a firm review last year that was clearly discussing her, out of hundreds of attorneys.

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I don’t think it is considered valid? Seems like a firm/office problem. Never seen anyone scream at my firm

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I hear you.

Went through what you describe.
Even pulled the Partner up on it.
No change so ended up leaving but let the Partner know what was what before going. She was scared!

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I was told by a managing attorney once "we put up with this kind of behavior bc they secure outcomes no one else can" ... and that told me all I needed to know.

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At least every firm I’ve been out or heard of this is about one percent as common as it was 20 years ago.

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I watched the managing attorney angrily shame a paralegal for her work product while we were all eating lunch together in the conference room. The paralegal was brought to tears and had to step out. The managing attorney chalked it up to “having a fiery personality.” This is being normalized, and it’s not okay.

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Agree and disrespectful/trashy behavior euphemized as “fiery” is awful

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