Ex contacted me today with a really long explanation of his side of the story and a half-assed apology. It came out of nowhere and was pretty random. I don’t know why he even sent it because it did not contain a question or anything I could even respond to. Proud of myself for ignoring the message. I’ve been thinking of it a lot today but am happy with my decision to ignore. Very happy to have some inner progress.

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Narcissist trying to pull you in by classic hovering. IGNORE at all cost!!!

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good on you! it sounds like maybe he did realize his mistakes and wanted to apologize (or atleast tried to) but doesn’t necessarily means he wants anything in response.

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Good for you for not responding. I've been trying to move on from my breakup around a month ago as well (which incidentally also happened for reasons similar to yours) but regardless I pretty badly wish he would reach out with an apology or even some sort of acknowledgement. I don't expect anything and I'm working hard on focusing on myself but the no contact has just been so jarring. Consider yourself lucky (and also very strong)!

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Also would like to say that you do not need an apology to forgive. If it is such a need, write the apology yourself. Write out what you wish they said. Write out “I’m sorry for hurting you by doing (whatever)” it’s healing. It validates your pain. It gives you an outline of WHY you feel you wanted an apology. Then read it, burn it, and forgive them - not for them, but for your healing.

How long after the breakup/no contact did he hit you up?

Does the time frame mean anything?

Who broke up with who

I did, because of his toxicity and dishonesty

Well done, OP!

Thank you

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