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Ladies, two months ago I was in bed, balling my eyes out and with excruciating pain in my chest, because someone didn’t choose me. Wondering why I wasn’t enough for him, what was wrong with me. Fast forward to last week, I found myself smiling and thinking “Thanks (ex name) for not choosing me” because had he chose me, I would’ve thought the bare minimum was what I deserved. Had he chose me, I wouldn’t have met this amazing guy who goes the extra mile to show up for me, who plans dates and brings me flowers, but more importantly, I’m not confused. It gets better.
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I think you need to accept that you miss him instead of trying to suppress those feelings. We all miss exes if we’re honest (though that feeling is not as pervasive with time); even in following relationships, you can feel nostalgic every so often — it doesn’t mean you want to be together but it does mean the person meant something to you at one point. That’s life! We have people that come and go and we hope they bring something meaningful while they’re here, but there’s no use getting caught replaying the past and forgetting to live in the present moment. Grief is radical acceptance. You can miss someone *and* move on with your life and love someone new, now in the present.
Accept that things didn’t turn out how you planned and that hurts, and that feeling is ok. You don’t need to cure it with activities that don’t even resonate with you, though I’m sure with time you’ll naturally discover new passions. Slow down a bit — you’re whole as you are and grief/loss is a part of the burden of life. You will be ok, I promise!
PS, I say this as someone who grieved the loss of never having a dad, my mom’s death when I was 23, and a very long term relationship
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Therapy isn’t really helping me sigh. Scared that 6 months later this is still the feeling. I’m on month 3 and def feel like I’ve plateaued. I’m just not happy and I miss them and so badly want them to miss me too.
continue therapy!!!! i know so many people that have stopped going bc it doesn’t help but u just have to get in the groove and find the right therapist
I’m on a year post breakup now and still feel this. I’ve been in therapy since before the breakup, so therapy doesn’t always work. I’ve done everything they say to do to get over it, nothings worked.
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I don't know the answer, because I'm in exactly the same boat. I feel for you. ❤️
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Set up goals for yourself I.e career, body, friends and work towards that goal. Meet up with friends, plan a trip, or go places/join clubs where you can meet new people. Do that thing you’ve always wanted to do.
Go on a solo trip. Get scuba certified. Take tennis lessons. Learn a new hobby. Give therapy another try to help you accept what happened and forgive yourself, the cheating is about him and nothing to do with your worth
He confessed when I pressed him on why he hasnt asked me to marry him. FYI - he got the ring and got my parents permission and that was right before Covid hit. :/
I’m on the 6 month mark and feel like there’s hope. I’m still sad but I can see the sadness lifting. I think another 6 months and I’ll be happy again.
I feel like this needs to be said: It’s *okay* not to be okay.
It’s okay to be heartbroken and grieve the loss of your relationship, a potential future and a great love.
It’s okay to feel like something is missing while you put the pieces of your life back together without that person.
Healing takes time. It’s not something you can achieve on a set timeline.
It comes when you see something that reminds you of them and you’re no longer sad.
It comes when you realize there wasn’t a missing piece, the shapes have just changed as you put together the picture of a new future.
We can’t know soft without feeling something rough. We can’t know joy without sadness. And we cannot know love without loss. It’s the balance of the universe, the human experience. Alan Watts has some great stuff on YouTube about this that you should check out to feel inspired.
You were together for six years. They say it takes half the time of the relationship to really be over it. Rediscovering who you are can be so fun. Take some time and date yourself.
And then when you’re ready, find the happy memories that don’t hurt, take the lessons learned, think of all the things you could have changed about this person… and find those things in the next one.
How did it happen if I might ask?
OP - Are you in therapy? This whole situation is traumatic as fuck.
Here’s the thing. You didn’t just learn he was cheating for half of your six year relationship. You learned he is not the person you thought you were dating for six years. That is a lot for anyone to process.
It’s deceitful, manipulative and probably a total mindfuck. Anyone would have trouble focusing after something like this; you likely have C-PTSD.
He has been lying to you, cheating on you, breadcrumbing you and fucking with your head. This is not okay. Normal, decent people do not do this to someone they love. He is not a good person.
Try to take a third party view. If someone was treating a friend this way, think about how you would feel. Upset, right? Angry, even.
Get angry for yourself. Angry for your wasted time, the audacity and the disrespect. How fucking dare he treat you that way?
Let’s go out! I need some friendly company as well!
I’m game! Sending a pm!
Have you tried therapy?
Please continue going to therapy if this is how you’re feeling! I’ve been going for 2 years now (started way before I even met my s/o) and i still go after my breakup. i find it to be a healthy way to let out emotions and constantly grow
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Also tried this and nothing sparked anything in me.
Do other activities with friends/guy friend. It works very well :)