My girlfriend and I are about to break up I think. It's my first girlfriend and while I care for her and there are no red flags, I just have so much anxiety about the relationship. I don't want to lead her on anymore. Just don't think she's the one.

I just wanted to take a quick moment to say that you are all doing a great job with this ridiculous, unprecedented juggling act of trying to be a parent, teacher, lawyer and human. Hang in there!

Where are the matured girls? Done with the kids!

Not sober currently. But think about it.
What happened to all your mates when you stopped? Did they dump you (because you make them feel guilty for drinking)? And what if your wife drinks too?

Have you ever been or currently in a relationship with someone of who’s political beliefs conflict with your own?

Not dealing with this currently have dealt with it in the past. My parents started out opposites but now believe similarly. I’m wondering if it is possible in this day and age.

How many folks here looking to actually connect for serious relationship (potentially converting to marriage)?

I’ll start 🙋🏻‍♂️ 30, located in the US (east coast) - open to worldwide relocation.

Dropped off my kids to school this morning and just felt unsettled. It’s so hard to concentrate on work today.

Any book recommendations to gift my cousin sister? She studied (masters) psychology and is a trained classical dancer.

Do you ever get over an ex you loved?

How do you deal with a dad who’s very supportive of his kids and loves them very much but is not that great towards his wife? Like pretty inconsiderate? I don’t know what to think in this situation.

Yet another friend/colleague got engaged this weekend. It’s become impossible to celebrate people’s relationships. I’m a POC woman and I’ve been single since coming to the US 10 yrs ago. A handful of men have been interested but they were not Christian or back in my country. So many childless, single women in my church and I’m terrified I’ll be them soon. My non-Christian family doesn’t understand why I’ll only date Christians, or the dating scene in big cities, so they put pressure on me

I’m only in my thirties, but I can’t help but feel like I would’ve been married with kids right now if I were straight. Dating while gay is a special kind of hell. 🥴

After 12 rounds of me vs my adhd - its still a LOVE/HATE relationship. I conclude I’m in the wrong career as a result. I love being smart, excelling, having random super human skills. But my career/stalemate with my own mind makes me feel like I am the biggest loser fuck up ever. All the time. I 1000% understand why work isn’t working out. I empathize for all involved > they probs deserve. Thrilled to figure this out but OH F$CK this is gonna get BAD bad before it gets fixed. Commiserate?

Hey guys, planning to shift to Kolkata on 1-Aug-22.

Please guide me on best place/area to reside with small family.
I am coming from Hyderabad with family and a pet dog and looking forward to a good society with amenities.

Thanks!!

I'm going from working at a non IT industry to an IT firm. As an introvert I've faced a lot of difficulty in my career... Now since I'm also shifting to another industry completely, I'm feeling very insecure about my life at work. Please give me tips on how to make friends and be in the good books of the managers.

I’m looking for advice on a project on presidents that I do with my kids every year. See comment below for more info (not enough space here to type).

I broke up with my EX mainly because the relationship with my child and her was not the best, it sucks but I have to look out for my child, So far I am able to do the things I can do now. It is not the I am not Hoeing around but the simply fact that I can hang out with friends and go watch my son play baseball is a great feeling now. I feel at peace now, in somewhat of pain because of the breakup but I am at peace now.

Everyone likes me because I'm a doormat with no boundaries. I do anything and say anything to make people happy. I will think what you think I should think. Will you be my friend?

Just 5 weeks left of school before summer. Is anyone else having trouble keeping their students engaged?

Only for men:

How do you deal with a best friend breakup?

I know friendship breakups between men are not talked about openly, but I had to.

Best friend was a Male too

Colleagues, if any of you are interested in helping severely disabled combat veterans get homes adapted for their disabilities, let me know. My wife recently started working for former NFL linebacker Jared Allen and his foundation. We're trying to figure out how to leverage the power of the big consulting firms to help our brothers and sisters in need.

How do your exit opps differ after 4 years at MBB vs 2 years at MBB and 2 years at a UMM?

Hi guys does evaluated in tcs ibegin means offer will be released?

Hi Fishes,

Just need an advice if we can ask HR to revise offer letter after accepting it by asking her to increase fixed pay?

This is regarding Accenture offer letter.

Currently interviewing for a nontechnical role (final round is getting scheduled rn) and I see there’s a new job posting for a different role that I might be more excited by, for the same/associated team. What do I do?? Email my recruiter saying I want to be considered? Apply? How does going for two roles work? The referral from the original job I’m interviewing for has expired fwiw.

Quick question - I have an offer from Accenture consulting. I am on dependant visa here in US. What happens in case my extension gets denied? Is Accenture flexible to support my relocation to my home country . Accenture does have a presence there.

How do you all handle the boring but standard recruiter phone question “so tell me about yourself”? In the past I always do straight and honest answer. Thinking if I should try to be witty this time?

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Have you ever been or currently in a relationship with someone of who’s political beliefs conflict with your own?

Not dealing with this currently have dealt with it in the past. My parents started out opposites but now believe similarly. I’m wondering if it is possible in this day and age.

Hi all,

What do you think is a bare minimum CTC required to sustain a good married life considering life in a metro city. I do earn about 15LPA. So how much should. I look for in a guy?

Can I get a vote on how many PMPs make over 175k? Wondering if this is my path to break over this number.

Will Verizon Hyd employees get cab service and food for morning and afternoon shifts ?

Hi all,
Need your advice. So i have 4+ years of IT experience (Devops) and currently drawing 6.7lpa (which i know very less compare to market standards).
So i have couple of offers and max they offered is 13 fixed+ 2.75 variable with hefty joining bonus.
I was looking for suggestions that as ler market standard in devops with this years how much more should i expect? Or this package is enough for this role. please help me out to negotiate guys

What does your company give annually for clients as gifts for Christmas?

My final interview was scheduled for a associate solutions architect role back on the 24th when the recruiter emailed me and said they had to pause interview activity on the position due to some recent changes.

Is this normal? They didn’t give any context and only said they hope to reschedule interviews in the near future

Are the smaller markets ever going to open back up?

Best website for furniture? A few steps above ikea.

I have $20k in savings, I owe $6,000 to my 401k loan, that’s the only loan I got. I am debt free otherwise except for my house. Should I use my savings to pay off? Since people are talking about unemployment and being fired, I wanted to make sure I have enough, 👩🏾‍💻... What should I do? I initially took the loan to add to my home equity when I sell my house for a new house then covid hit.

I have client round on friday.. So anyone please help what kind of questions they can ask in client round..? Automation testing using selenium and 6 yoe

It’s such an unsettling feeling to want to hear from someone and not want to at the same time. I’m shocked I haven’t thrown my phone against a wall. My mind wants a Rage Room but my body is exhausted and just wants sleep.

The biggest thing I keep running and running around my head- after 8 months, why did he drop me? When he texted ending it l….it wasn’t me, like we weren’t us, his words were from someone else, like I didn’t matter. It doesn’t matter how much it wasn’t about me, how he chose to end it, and that’s what crushed me. Who I thought I knew was wrong. I want to know how close he was to loving me.

I hate that I still want to hear from him. I just have no idea what I want him to say or what I want to say. I feel like if I get anywhere near him he’ll be able to sense my pain. Are we sure the no contact rule is only 21 days? I feel like I need 21 months.

As much as I know I need to go through this. Today - I just felt so lonely. I was clingy and needy to strangers and just want to make some sort of physical connection with a human.

It’s week 5 for me of the breakup and even though I had a full and fun weekend with friends and people I love, I woke up today so so sad because I wanted to text my ex. I just feel overall so defeated and exhausted from sadness and unmotivated at work :(

I made a mistake. I talked with the ex this morning. He said he misses me. And that while he walk talking to the other woman, he wished he was talking to me instead. And when he saw that I didn’t respond to his texts, he drank a shit ton. And then called this morning.

He’s not willing to commit to the other women because he’s not over me.

I need to block him.

I’m so happy this bowl exists 🥹🫶🏼

I hope he’s in as much pain as I am. The way he ended it was so cold and selfish and unlike how he was any other time with me. It was like a personality switch. I’ve never been so wrong about someone. I’m not sure how to process or recover from that part of it.

Well, I was the one who broke it off. I couldn’t get him to love me the way I needed or even respect me enough. It’s been 6 weeks of not seeing each other. We messaged this week. He doesn’t get it…. His messages show he still doesn’t know what he wants. Yet, if I am totally honest, I hate how part of me wishes he would do a grand gesture/finally decide to be a better man. It’s delusional. It’s crazy how love can be so rosy, sweet & blinding that the red flags seem surmountable.

It’s been 5 weeks and I haven’t gone a day or night without crying and feeling haunted by them. I can’t eat, can’t sleep, can’t produce quality work, can’t find joy in anything I previously loved. This is the worst physical and psychological pain I’ve ever experienced.

Why do we always tell people “Be the best version of yourself before starting a relationship?”
I feel this is wrong…first, if you’re someone who constantly wants to be better, this doesn’t work. Also, what happens when you’re going through things and you’re not the best version? What happens is…the going gets tough and then one person leaves the other.

Anyone with anxious attachment tendencies? Going through a breakup and I keep thinking about how I pushed him away and then am down on myself, replaying memories in my mind. At the end of the day, I think we were a bad match from the beginning and misaligned, but so hard not to beat myself over my anxious attachment during my relationship

Has anyone dealt with coming to terms with an emotionally abusive relationship? I struggle to admit this (because more drastic examples come to mind), but my therapist mentioned that things like yelling/throwing things/blocking me from leaving the room are also abusive traits my ex demonstrated. It makes me feel alienated from myself — like “how could I have allowed myself to be treated like that?”. Also feeling ashamed to tell anyone

TLDR: Getting over your ex of 2.5 years ghosting you after they said they wanted to reconnect.

I was dating someone for about 2.5 years and then we broke up because of COVID and the long distance was making it too difficult to continue. The break up must’ve been like a 4-5 minute FaceTime because I was very distraught. After we broke up, she started seeing someone else but I was heartbroken and it’s taken me over a year to really get over everything and process those feelings. (Cont.)

Do you tell your boss you’re going through a breakup? I’m phoning it in and obviously going to be camera off for awhile.

Here to tell you guys that each of us mending from either leaving a bad relationship or having some leave us: things are going to be amazing for us! I believe if for myself and I am so happy! And meeting new people is FUN. Laughing with friends and being yourself, away from all the drama, pain. Liberate yourself by deciding this breakup is your evolution into your best self!

I don’t understand how someone can lie about loving you for 6 months. We were together for almost a year (broke up a week before our anniversary). I said I love you first and he said it back. I asked for more reassurance last month with saying I love you more often. Now all of a sudden he said he didn’t know if he loved me and that love meant marriage for him. Okay well great thanks for telling me this now, 6 months after it was initially exchanged. I don’t understand how he could do that.

I felt like a walking zombie during thanksgiving, barely eating and barely talking. My family is small and I told them ahead of time my relationship ended. I focused on my niece and nephews, cried when I wanted to and slept from 8pm-noon for the last 5 days. Showered once or twice. That’s the best I could do and that’s OK right now. I’m back in my apartment, just trying to take it one day at a time, and not re read his texts too much. My birthday is Thursday 🙄