Why do I feel so anxious about removing my ex from my accounts like my Netflix or Costco membership?! I mean, he's even had more time benefiting from that stuff cause I forgot for a while and now that I finally remembered and have been diligently doing these things to cut ties and separate, I'm feeling oddly guilty. Like, "oh boo hoo he can't watch free Netflix- should I call and let him know to be nice?!" 🙄 ugh fml. 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

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I think the anxiousness comes from knowing that every severed tie is one more step towards him being completely out of your life for good. My ex is a colossal piece of shit who cheated on me but I still felt anxiety and sadness deleting him from Netflix and our phone bill and our Amazon account. It’s okay to feel sad or anxious, but in the long run it will feel better.

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Guilty? Omg lol get over it and do NOT contact him!

Do you feel like he's going to be mad? Because he has no right to be. The appropriate reaction when he realizes should be, well that makes sense.

You need to cut all ties and now that you've remembered, it's time. Just do it. If you feel a little sad about it, it's okay. But you should do it. Don't contact him, there's no point.

I literally signed out of Netflix on my exes TV hours after we broke up lol. That was the only thing we shared

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