Anyone successfully “restart” after a breakup — as in, move to a new city, get a new job, just start over? What was that experience like? Recommend or no? I just feel so stagnant and stuck here in the city and home me and my ex lived in. The catch though, is the only other place I would move is my ex’s home city bc that’s where I also used to live and love — but I wouldn’t be moving for them. UGH!

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Yeah I moved after a breakup for a few reasons. I’ve wanted to move before I even met my ex so when the relationship ended I decided to pull the plug. It wasn’t necessarily because of them, I was going yo move anyway. But it felt good to have a fresh start somewhere with better opportunities. I moved about a year after the break up though so it was thought out and I could sit with my thoughts.

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Yes, it’s like a breath of fresh air. I find it helps when our current living environment reminds you too much of your ex

I moved out of NYC where it felt like almost every spot reminded me of my ex (I met him soon after moving to the city). I tried to heal while remaining there but found that moving to Chicago (which I was excited about anyway bc the culture of the city and people there felt more aligned with my values and priorities too.)

It helped me feel like a new person, or rather the version before my ex. I actually met someone shortly in Chicago and began a new chapter.

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Yes new country lol. Rough at first but helped get over and start fresh

Well yes, because the last 3 years of my relationship were long distance and when I finally got everything in order to move to his city (after about a year of planning), he chickened out and broke up with me weeks before moving, so I still had to go through with it… without him.

It’s incredibly, incredibly stressful and lonely having to start from scratch particularly during a break up. Moving cities is a huge and intense process and financially and emotionally taxing. Having literally zero friends in the area is a struggle because it’s not like you even have one person to start branching out from. I’m doing pretty well now but I still am struggling to meet people with how isolated people are in their existing friend groups or relationships. Wouldn’t recommend a huge move unless you are sure you have a lot of time and energy to dedicate to continually putting yourself out there while repeatedly getting flaked on or ghosted (it’s worse than dating!)

Also switched work teams around the same time which did make a huge difference though

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