Women in Law

MAGA grandma is visiting from out of state. We offered to host her for dinner but gently requested no political discussions so we could focus on catching up. She freaked out and said she “won’t be lec… more

Anyone else suffering from menopause-post menopausal brain fog? What do you do to get back on your A game?

Friend of a friend is trying to last-minute plan a bachelorette for her next week. It seems to involve taking a day off, though plans haven’t been finalized. I’m not attending the (destination) weddin… more

Do you feel like a select few (definitely not the majority) of male partners try to one up you when reviewing your work? I notice that when I am a little more nuanced with my RFA or ROG responses cert… more

Moms that went from biglaw to something else (mid law, in house, government work) where did you go and how was it? Seriously thinking about making a move. Thanks.

My good friend is graduating this spring from law school.. what’s a cute and/or useful gift you would’ve wanted to receive as a new attorney? I’m having a brain freeze trying to think back for myself.… more

I’m passionate about my firm, but over the past few months, I’ve been struggling significantly. It turns out that my anxiety and fatigue are not due to burnout, but rather Graves’ disease. I’m current… more

(1) I'm a 5th year currently working at a firm with great WLB. Come and go as I please. As long as I'm billing hours and my cases are moving along, no one hassles me. My firm respects boundari… more

How did you inform HR when you are pregnant? I’m 20 weeks and starting to show so I wanted to tell my partners but wanted first to be in writing to HR. Was thinking of just asking for the maternity po… more

How do you deal with pregnancy related fatigue and nausea at work? Currently in my first trimester and not feeling great 🤢

I am having a really difficult time working with local counsel. They blow deadlines and their work product is really bad. I have sent stern emails but I still get a lot of pushback. Any tips on how to… more

New job blues and in need of perspective. Senior ID associate. Left toxic, belittling boss for a $75,000 raise and nicer colleagues but my new workplace is chaotic. First of all, my paralegal started … more

Has anyone left the law for a period of time and then returned?

I’m in a weird place where my practice group disbanded and I had an offer from the federal government that fell through when the administ… more

What’s your firm’s parental leave policy? I’ll go first in the comments. Please post size of firm/rank, region and any additional details.

What did you put in your prenup?

Don’t have much, partner makes ~350k, owns 1 house and has student debts

I’m leaving for a firm retreat tomorrow and got a bad manicure. It’s gel on natural nail in a pale pinky cream, which I thought would be professional, but it just looks streaky.

Is there anything I … more

How do you deal with unfair treatment at work? When it’s about presenting or looking a certain way instead of actually being able to do the work?

For those who have an office hoteling system, do you decorate your office when you’re in and how so? My firm switched to hoteling to save costs, and it’s an adjustment since I’m used to having photos … more

What is the most memorable mistake you madr as a young associate?

Anyone dread sending work product to a partner because they *always* find something wrong, even when other partners have signed off? Always with little direction or guidance of course too.

Hi, does anyone know someone who transitioned from being a lawyer to being a therapist? I’m interested in making that move and would like to speak with someone who made that jump. TIA!

Pumping / breastfeeding moms - what do you do if you’re asked to be out of town/state for several days to a week due to depositions or a trial?? I’ve seen people on here talk about the company milk st… more

I just got asked “what is the biggest misconception about you” during an interview. What am I supposed to answer to that?

Interview with a tech company in half an hour: black T-shirt with a blazer or just a blouse on its own?

This may be a silly question but I am heading to my first partner retreat, and I am worried about what I should wear. The retreat will be a 5 day boondoggle in Texas in late May. The firm is encourag… more

I make $140k as a 4th year at a mid-sized firm in a HCOL area and can't reasonably afford a house. I bill about 2100, but a lot of that is case management, depos, etc. and not the exhausting, thou… more

My only poor review came from my assigned mentor and was unsolicited. Was a bit blindsided and find them very difficult to work with. How would you handle this?

Job hopping in the legal field. How long should you stay at a job before you’re classified as a job hopper?

Any attorneys who work in the Office of Sponsored Programs department for universities - are you worried about layoffs amid the federal funding freezes and stop work orders?

Just trying to get a quick workout in at the gym before work, and someone came right next to me and set up her tripod and started filming her workout. I was clearly in the shot, and I politely said th… more

Anyone else’s firm have a policy that you can’t use vacation time immediately prior to maternity leave? For example, you can’t take a week off before a scheduled induction/c section. Are we supposed t… more

How much are you spending on your legal assistant for admin professionals day? (Not big law associate)

Need advice and data points: I’m a sixth year in Big Law. My plan was to stay in Big Law until we bought a house then move to the federal government (I’m in a reg group) and have my kids then.

We got the house las… more

Who's done microdermabrasion? And what was your experience like?

Stick it out for another year or leave? 3.5 years out of law school. 2 years at one govt job. 1.5 years at another govt job - this current job offered promotion and raise over a year ago but didn’t de… more

How do you deal with learning that a family member who is far away has passed and you are in the middle of a closing? Transactional practice.

Talk me out of this:
This is mostly for the mothers. I have 2 young children with one on the way. I’m at a small/midsize firm with mid-level salary. I can apply to a job in big law but I know my WLB wi… more