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No tips, just commiseration and know it gets better. I didn’t start feeling like a sliver of my old self at work until a year PP. Try to give your self a little grace/break. I know it’s easier said than done, but maybe the reminder will help. Hang in there and if you haven’t read it (or in my case, I listened) check out the book the fifth trimester.❤️❤️
Think about the incredible journey you just went on! You’re a mom and nothing will be the same again. You’re going to start to feel back in the swing of things soon. My first week back was great and then reality hit and it was a struggle for a while. I learned to lean on my coworkers and staff more. It actually gave them all more opportunity to move up or learn something new. I’ve always been a do it myself person and that’s not an option anymore. Also ask for what you need from your team. Don’t be a hero. Be real about things. You can do this. Just don’t compare who you are now with who you were before. She didn’t have half of things on her plate that you do now.
You are still a badass. You just happen to be a mom now. Also remember that we engineer the feeling of “feeling behind” based on invisible standards. Chances are you’re probably going the speed limit, just not 20-30 miles over. 😀
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Totally been there! Felt like an idiot unable to express myself in good English 😂 ESP BEING SLEEP DEPRIVED!!! What you’re going through is really hard and I believe people are empathetic.
It will come back! And life will change for the better once your baby starts sleeping through the night! This will just be a memory you’ll forget soon ♥️
Hang in there!
I very much commiserate. Be extra gentle with yourself. Drop your expectations. You are different and have to re-learn how to do your job in a way. It took me almost a full year back to feel like I was operating normally again, and normal was still different. You are doing great and it will happen!
I go back soon and am dreading this, I already can’t even imagine how I will get through it. I went through a separation with my child’s father during mat leave too- so that adds to it. Happy to chat about our experiences and encourage each other through this!
Seven months out and I can relate. 💕
You aren’t alone. It takes time to dust the cobwebs off and get back into work mode. You are handling more than you’ve ever handled before - that deserves a heaping load of grace. Give yourself time and you will get back into the swing of things. ♥️
Commiserating with you for sure. 6 months PP and finding that focus and attention and motivation are in a cloud somewhere. From what other posters said, takes time. I just didn’t put the expectation on myself to be back in full force within the first month at all. 2nd month? Company got acquired and it’s been miserable since.
Be gentle, take frequent breaks, and set small goals that will give you an accomplished feeling and speak up at home. Husband and I tackling together and we have to pivot everyday. Looking at it as a finite thing to being back to normal will not serve you either.
Thanks all, appreciate the support. Even today boss makes comments like we did this before you left remember? Yeah no I don't, I barely remember if I brushed my teeth yesterday. Clueless dude.
Very insensitive of your boss.. I hate this attitude toward moms with infants and moms in general at work place. I even heard of moms overcompensating and working themself to a complete burn out :/ don’t do it, take care of you!
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It’s ok. It’s normal. The best advice someone told me: my dr said that the first two weeks I went back to work I would feel like I’d been hit my a truck. And it was 1000% true. She also told me not to make any big life decisions for a year. That also was amazing advice bc I felt like quitting a month in. You will make it. It will get better. And one day you will encourage another mom to hang in there bc you made it!!
Just here for the support - coming back from maternity leave feeling completely brain drained. Feel free to DM me - the motherhood sticks together.
I experienced all of this and ended up getting diagnosed with PP ADHD. I’m now on meds and they have really helped. Not for everyone, but working for us.
You will get there. It takes some time.
It took me around 3 to 4 months to feel like I knew how to do my job again
Takes time. I did this a few months back and you will be fine once you get the hang of working while balancing having a newborn at home. You will be ok!
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A parent once told me that you don’t fully get your drive back at work for years and I completely felt that way. I adjusted to the day to day in my first year but to really feel like I had that same drive at work took much longer. Once my youngest kid was 3 is when I felt I had more energy for work. I was lucky to have a supportive manager and other moms at work in my corner. They helped me see that even if I didn’t feel 100% at work, that wasn’t showing in my work. There will be days you excel in one part of life and fall down in another. It’s a give and take now that you have two full time jobs. You’re not alone in this journey.
It gets better, but in stages. This is the earliest stage, you're still not even sleeping. Give yourself lots of grace. Eventually sleep and clear mind will come, then motivation eventually. 😊