3 year old taking 3 hours to get to bed 7-10. We start with bath 7-7:30, soft music and reading 7:30-8:30, cuddle from 8:30-9:00PM, then she literally stalls and stalls from 9:00-10PM - suggestions??

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She is making you do her schedule, not her doing yours.

Cut down the reading to two books, or two chapters of a large book. No more cuddle time. Give a goodnight hug and kiss and tuck them in and leave. They will sleep eventually. Also baths are for getting clean. 30 minutes sounds like it's turned into a play time.

That is just not sustainable if you want or have more kids.

I have a newborn, a 3 year old and a 4 year old. Bath, reading and saying goodnight takes no more than 30 minutes total for each of the older kids.

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They’ll take as much as you give them. Give them a warning and then lock their door. Unlock it after 15 minutes or after they fall asleep. Sounded cruel when someone first suggested it to me but it’s been effective in reducing the stalling

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A1 has it. It's easy to fall into that trap with a little one, but believe me the earlier you learn to establish boundaries the happier everyone will be. Kids love, want, and need routine. Just make sure it's your routine and not theirs. Same thing will happen with potty training, food choices, school/homework, etc. Best to fix that now.

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She sleeps from 10-7AM, and 1 hour nap. She can’t NOT take a nap, we tried that, she will just fall asleep on the floor or will go bonkers around 7PM because she’s so tired.

I try to get up at 6AM to wake her up, but by the time she goes down, I’m up until 11 so I actually get an hour to myself...ugg

Yup. Time for tough love. Book at 7:30 pm then good night lady

90 minutes to read and snuggle? First 60 of that could still be play time. If she stays up and is quiet in room for a while after, that seems fine. My 4.5 year old has been like that for a long time. She’ll read by herself for 2 hours after 8pm bedtime (meaning us out of room)

OP. You answered your own question. If you cut naps, she will get tired and go bonkers at 7 pm. I say perfect! Send her to bed at 7

H1 - haha yea but at daycare they all have to nap for at least 30-45 mins, so no nap only works on weekends, but then throws her off.

Bourbon shot 9:45 pm. For you not the kid

I had to set ground rules, bath, brush teeth, choose three books, hug and kiss then sleep time. If my kiddo makes a sad choice one book gets taken away. Some nights no books and he learned quick not to continue the same bad behavior. FYI It will be brutal first week but gets better. We start at 7:30 and he’s down for the count by 8-8:15ish daily now

Oh yeah get the 5 min story books or books that take less than 5 mins to read, this cuts down the time

You travel for a living? Spend the three hours with your kid.

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