How much per week/month do you spend on daycare?

What is "Summer Streets" in NYC? Worth doing with the wife?

Ugh, is that time of year again! Does anyone have any advice on how to handle "friends" and family members who spout conspiracy theories to avoid getting the flu shot

My relationship just ended yesterday because he wanted to “focus on myself and figure things out.” My relationship before that ended (~2 years ago) because he wanted to focus on himself. I can’t help but feel like it’s because something is wrong with me. What am I doing wrong?

My SO is an alcohol abuser but has said he knows it’s a problem and would like to cut back or quit. Any suggestions or advice in how to help and cope with this. He becomes a different person when he drinks. I want to support him but don’t know how or where to start.

Have you ever been or currently in a relationship with someone of who’s political beliefs conflict with your own?

Not dealing with this currently have dealt with it in the past. My parents started out opposites but now believe similarly. I’m wondering if it is possible in this day and age.

Anyone feel as if it’s hard to stay with a company when you’re the only one of color? (&young) I’ve work for 3 companies in past 5 years and have yet to make meaningful colleague relationships. I just do not relate to the conversation and just find it hard to picture myself being a long-term employee. I’ve had better relationships when working at wal-mart when I was in college. I feel it takes away some of the joy of having to go to work.

My kids were really upset with me when I told them that my job as an engineer did not mean that I drove trains for a living

If you loved your small independent broker dealer but they had just been acquired by a much larger corporation which does have benefits in terms, mostly, in technology, but you lose your “family” in the home office, what would you do and who would you look at if you were considering a change of your own?

How do I deal with minimal support from our principal when it comes to dealing with parents?

How do you plan to care for yourself this week?

Last night I went over to my friends house (she has 2 kids, 2 and 4 yo). She and her husband were asking me about my pregnancy and planning. And were asking what I’ve prepped to date. I’m only 13w2 days so I think it’s way to early for buying stuff, but I did mention we hired a baby nurse for when the baby comes. My friend completely berated me, short of calling me a bad mom already, saying “what is she going to do all day? Don’t you want to bond with your child?”. I’m so upset by this.

Do you think you and your significant other should have similar personalities? My significant other and I are doing long distance and I feel like when I FaceTime with him, I emote more and show interest by asking more questions but from his end, he doesn’t always have a reaction or just nods, and it makes me feel like he’s uninterested. On his end he sees it as he’s comfortable.

So we will be shut down for a while. What are some things you will send home or do for Preschoolers during the sit down?

Anybody willing to help a broke kid out with some mock interview prep?

My fiancé will NOT stop talking about her ex. After I found out they were texting arguing she justified it by saying it was about the dogs and not them. Even though Her social media is full of his pics. She still sends him $50 a month for dog food, still goes to work right by his place and suspiciously needs keys. I try to bring it up and I get dismantled for being too mean and making “false accusations.” How much more obvious can it be?

How do married folks manage finances ..keep them separate or everything common? Have heard married people splitting rent and stuff and not sure I fully understand how common are situations like that.

Anyone else struggling with hormones / mood swings? I am almost 16 weeks and been having a real tough time lately, feeling really down and stressed about things. Sadly, causing tension between me and my partner as well as he cannot relate and seems preoccupied with business as usual. Trying to get out the funk and just telling myself it’s all the hormones.

My partner and I are not connecting at all. It’s honestly so hard.

Seen a few posts on people not having/hating on parents with kids. What is your rationale? I for one am excited to have 3 kids running around in the future! Anyone else?

Anyone at Stripe willing to refer? I’m applying for Program Manager, Talent & Careers Programs.

Is it common to negotiate software engineer salary at smaller companies? I know it’s common at FAANG, but what about for companies with around 200 engineers? I have a counter offer from my current company and on-site interviews scheduled for end of July with google and Amazon, but I’d prefer to go with the smaller local company if I can negotiate the salary (from offer letter) up another 5% or so.

Haha why is it called bench “blues”? I’m the happiest man alive on the bench. I do the bare minimum

Top consulting firms for building mobile apps - IOS or Android?

Hi, Anyone working in Virtusa with BT as Client?

Does anyone have advice on going through a breakup and focusing at work. I am struggling

Any referrals for sap basis hana admin

I’m being offered a VP level CoS role at Morgan Stanley Tech side. I have 7 YoE. Is $150k-$160k good for this position in NYC or should I ask for more?

Why do the London markets write hard-to-place risks for not a lot of premium?

Has anyone ever asked to renegotiate their salary after starting a job? I’m 2 months into my new job and I have far more responsibilities than what I was told. It’s a lot different than what was relayed in the posting and during the interviews. Additionally, they hired my counter part in as a senior manager which is at least $30k more than what I make. My peer has more experience so I expect that but I feel that I should be paid more, however I don’t want to leave a bad impression… any advice?

Interviewing for a digital transformation manager role at GT, any tips? Thank u fellow fishes 🤞😊

Hi guys, I'm working as support engineer in Microsoft.

I have got offer from Disney as Cloud solutions Architect and as DevOps engineer 3 in Western Digital(which was Earlier SANDISK).

Is it a good option to switch to any of these companies?

Any tips on making a small wedding feel intimate and special versus tiny and boring?

Not sure why the execs keep their jobs and layoff production. Do we need all top-level operation staff when there isn’t much left to operate? I have ahead time seeing C-suite doin any production work

WFH poll - out of the 8 work hrs per day, how many hours are you actually working?

Does MS have jobs for Business Analysts? Can anyone please refer me for a BA post?

Any angel investors here interested in syndicating?

Thank y’all for starting this bowl! Newly expecting mama here 🤰🏾I’ll be 11 weeks tomorrow! My husband and I are praying that I give birth to healthy 🤴🏾 or 👸🏾. I look forward to learning from this group!

Any homeschool parents in the group?

What to do for a spouse who is struggling emotionally but refuses to get professional help?
I’m 17 weeks pregnant with our first. My husband is really struggling with emotional/ mental health. I’ve asked him to consider counseling or other medical alternatives. Instead, he wants to talk to me until 11:30 pm or 12 am at night. I want to be there for him but I can’t. I’m tired. I’m still working VERY full time, and I was just diagnosed with early onset preeclampsia 😫

Father of two princesses. 2 years and 4 months.

Talk to me about discipline. What age did you really start laying down the law? Im patiently waiting out the terrible twos but at some point will need to reign it in if this continues...

About to be a new dad. Starting to look into childcare but feeling a little overwhelmed. Would love to hear thoughts/opinions on what to look for besides convenience.

Potential unintended consequences of my parenting decisions is the most stressful thing ever.

The “right” approach can feel so clear one moment, then feel like a huge mistake the next.

Ladies, any suggestions our 8th anniversary gift for the wife? We are in our early 30s. I am running out of ideas over the year 😔.

Thinking of getting a Black Baby Alive doll for my daughter. Preferably one that talks and moves, but there seems to be so many. Any suggestions?

Where can I get good and affordable baby clothes 0-3 months?

Anyone have tips on culturally relevant (read Black) parent podcasts or parent preparation programs?

I’m looking for something similar to New Mom Boss but for us

Any of the sisters deal with gestational diabetes but already had a restrictive diet pre and during pregnancy?
Doctor says I have it, but I honestly don’t believe them. I don’t eat cane sugar (not even in sauces), gluten, dairy, or soy. So not surprised I couldn’t process their drink-I don’t consume stuff like that regularly. I walk a mile or do HIIT training 5x/ week. The condition doesn’t run in my family (and my mom has 4 sisters w/kids-good sample size) (cont’d in comments)

My 5 year old son demanded a haircut because he doesnt like his curly hair. Its too curly. He wants hair thats like Fletcher's. (Fletcher is his white friend from day care). My son and his sister are the only blacks at the day care. I dont know how to broach the subject with him.

As a father of two girls, I'd just love to hear from women in the group about what their favorite parenting styles/memories are from their dads.

I really wanna crush it at this role haha

Excited to be here!

Black mama here with a toddler and infant 👋🏾